Niksik
January 16, 2012, 6:38pm
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Re: Forgiving Past Adultery
Say you have been married for around 10 years plus, and have been quite happy in your married life and are content. Your partner comes to you one day and confesses to having a short, meaningless fling many years earlier with a random person, which your partner ended as they felt too guilty about. They have since been making a big effort in your marriage and feel much more content/invested in the marriage, and have only told you now because they didn’t want to damage the marriage before and feel that you deserve to know the truth now.
Would you be able to forgive them at some point, and continue being married to them? Seeing as they made a big effort to show what the marriage means to them, and that they have (eventually) confessed, would that mean anything? Or would you want a divorce?
Also , if your partner had cheated on you years ago but it was only the once or it was very short term affair– would you rather just not know about it, or would you want to know?
Forgive, try to forget and move on. I’d see the sincerity. But it also depends on the situation. Like how detailed the affair was…what are the chances of it happening again.
Regarding the second question, if I don’t know then how would I care? If there weren’t any signs then just as well.