Forgiving Parents

[queen_24]

Re: Forgiving Parents

@sweetpip

I am not ready to go into details, but to give some context the marriage discussion has caused the situation. For me though the issue is not that we have had disagrements on the topic; it is the hurtful things that were said and their approach are what makes it difficult for me to forgive. Although it was in anger I will never forget the words that have been said which I had never imagined a parent would throw at a daughter.

My dad and I have always had a very close relationship, but the manner in which he handled things means that it is unlikely we will ever be that close again. Although, my relationship with my mother has always been strained I am angry with her because she sends mixed messages and is unwilling to upset her family. At least my father acknowledges that the situation has been created due to family interference.

what if it was his reaction to an action?? isnt it possible he threw the sentences over you because he was also hurt deep inside??
the easiest way is, put yourself in his shoe.. realise if you were a father and he your daughter.. what would have happened and what you would have said??

as you said, you have been in a very close relation with him..may he not be expecting any of your particualr action.. ewmwmber, when you love someone, you become over sensitive or very possessive.. i am sure whatever he have said..must be a part of his anger.. after all he is your father, and he loves you true!! you should forgive him at all… these are the nights of ibadaat… there must have been sins that you did, openly or hiddenly.. kabira… or saghira.. but who knows?? Only Allah.. yet you cry over nights.. asking for the forgiveness.. and want Him to forgive you! Why? because you love him & you ask for forgiveness.. because you know, Allah WILL forgive you! but think for a moment.. what if He doesn’t? so don’t go that far.. 2 months is still not that much time.. stop it to let it become 2 years… and then you will never regret.. you never know when one comes to regret.. so go ahead, hug him.. i am sure he loves you.. he will kiss you back.. Good Luck!