Re: Forgiving and Forgetting...
**Did I bring Islam into any of the discussion? Culture always over-ride religion.
Do you realize what you just wrote? I shall let you think about the consequences.
What a man can do is keep an equilibirum? However, women do not want equilibrium. Every women wants the balance to be tilted on her side.**
Even if you leave out Islam, you'll find that our culture is way more male-domineering than Islam is. So your argument falls through the toilet.
If men are so "all that and a bag of chips" in our society, culturally and religiously (more so culturally), then they should be able to handle larai jhagray at home. Isn't that why culturally women are encouraged not to work? Because they just wont be able to handle the tough life outside?
Right, but these same women certainly can handle and can create a tough life at home, and there you see role reversal. The male is the helpless one in the middle of the torrential environment that women create at home, while woman is the helpless one in the middle of the torrential environment that men create outside of the home.
Obviously, daal mein kuch kaala hai. Either these men are not as efficient as they boast to be, or they really do not give women's fights at home that much importance. Either way, its definitely not that women are winning at home, and becharaa aadmi is totally helpless like a 10 year old boy.
Men need to grow up and learn to take control of their home environment, just like they take control of their work environment. You can run a sabzi shop on the corner of Taariq road, but you wifey should be in a burqa and never come out of the home? Fine, then you had better had the balls to keep your mother and sisters out of your marital business, and your wife out of your mom-sis's business.
Men go very wrong in this - they think that they can bring an outsider in (which essentially a woman is) into their home, and she'll adjust. Bloody hell, you people would sure as hell not adjust being a ghar damaad, how the hell do you expect a female to become your ghar ki naukrani for your family, and then her not raise hell every once in a while. Keep the wife in a separate place, and keep your mom and your sisters in a separate place. Voila - there will be less jhagray. But men aren't man enough to leave their moms and be independent, so what can I say? Its a doomed recipe for disaster.