Re: Forgiving a Spouse
From an Islamic perspective that cannot be classified as ‘cheating’ so I’m not sure if there is anything to technically ‘forgive.’ But I would still feel no less cheated/deceived and would react the same way = leave.
I’m willing to give a lot in a spousal relationship and in return, I’m expecting a deep bond. If he can relegate me to the position of an alternate and offer part-time companionship at best and part-time fatherhood at best to children (if there are any) then that is not something I can ever be OK with. Furthermore, I don’t think I could respect someone who introduces petty feelings of jealousy, competition, negativity etc. in a relationship which should be based on honor and commitment. But these are slightly secondary to the main reason: I simply don’t have the ability to share my partner, whether it’s a matter of one day or a chunk of my life-time. It’s yukky too.
I’m just human and from the perspective of many people, my limits of how much mistreatment I can take from others happen to be very narrow and shallow.