Forgiveness

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I for one, have always been a forgive and forget kind of person. Forgiveness comes very easy to me… simply for the fact that we are all humans and we make mistakes, and if I were to ever slip up and do something bad, or cause harm to anyone… whether out of spite or unintentionally…i’d hope to be forgiven. I am a firm believer in second chances. Granted, I won’t forget right away.. but over time (if they redeem themselves), it’ll be a suppressed memory or something completely erased from my mind.

Alot of people however see forgiveness of any act or offense as allowing it or agreeing with it…but think about it…do we ever forgive someone for doing something right?? So obviously, it means we’re forgiving someone for a wrongdoing. It just seems a little strange that some people would go and forgive their worst enemies…but when a near and dear one slips up(friend, lover, family, etc.)…we cant forgive them… it makes no sense.. instead… you belittle them, hold a grudge against them forever, try to take revenge… hurt them… etc…True, we expect more from those we love, but are they too not human?

Forgiveness is for yourself, and yourself only. You do not have to keep any ties with the wrongdoer afterwards, but by forgiving them, you are on the fasttrack to healing, to getting out of the victim mentality… It brings peace of mind and harmony to the soul… think it over… you cant possibly be at peace with yourself while at war with others…

You don’t always have to wait for them to ASK for it… it is an act that can be done on its own.. in your own mind.. to put a certain matter to rest… to refuse to let it affect you any longer… to not waste energy on it any longer… stubborness and a refusal to forgive is just like a person continuously suffering for someone doing something to you (or, not doing), and expecting that person to die… which obviously aint gonna happen! Just remember, if Allah can forgive, then we have no right not to..

One of my favorite quotes:When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. - Catherine Ponder

What are your thoughts on this? Are you quick to forgive someone, or do you hold the mistake(s) against him/her forever? And would you have a harder time forgiving a friend as opposed to a foe?

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before it was hard to forgive a person but then u think to yourself why not forgive them because end of the day you'll end up putting all the pressure and depression on your own head
family matters amongst asians seems to be the hardest, personly my family have a very hard time to forgive someone like cousins and my uncles whom have been broken up with us for nearly 10 years

but my cousins always say that forget them its between them we are young and need to act more wise and forgive eachother not just from the mouth but from the heart which is the toughest one, because a person might say i forgive u but does he/she really mean it from the heart

but ive forgiven my enemies, family so i think im quick at asking for forgivness and forgiving ....

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I didnt realize my post got so long :bummer:… massive if you can truly do that, then thats a very good quality. As Mahatma Gandhi once said " The weak can never forgive… Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."

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forgive for the first time, cuz hez an idiot

forgive for the second time and you are an idiot… :cb:

j/k … forgive as many times as possible… its the quality of the pious, the prophets..

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I dont take forgiveness to be a single act…it is an unwavering attitude. By forgiving someone, you’re not always making yourself vulnerable to getting hurt again, you dont have to let your guard down! :smack:

Oops didnt see the second part. I make sure I go to bed everynight after having forgiven everyone adn everything… it makes me feel soooo much better about life in general.

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thnx for the quality and mahatma ganhi is 100% right and theres also another saying

"That the biggest person is the one who can forgive and have patience over someone who is deserved of a punishment"

really when u forgive someone u realise how easy it is and how happy it makes a person and the forgiver

but like i said if its from the heart then u have succeded and your dreams of whatever u wish to become will come tru inshallah
and like i always say "if you can not follow up on your dreams then it is better to be a vegetable"

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I forgive you ..and everyone .. and massive has said everything that needs to be said on my behalf too..

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:D :)

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Me? I didnt know I did something wrong…:konfused:

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I forgive only two times and third time there is no option :chai:
oh and i forgot to mention in kids matter that they get punishment otherwise i am very forgiving towards my hub :phati:

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i forgive …but theres gota b limits…:chai:

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call me dopey or whatever

but ask for forgiveness and i forgive…make a mistake for the 10th time and i’d still forgive :smack:

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Very well said.. there have to be limits where u can forgive and where u cant ..since how many times can a person overstep the the boundries … so if there is a limit then person knows that if i step over this time thers no forgivness for me ..

Sabriya786: am just saying it generally … that i forgive you . as in general if someone asks for forgiveness i forgive but then like canni said theres gota be limits … :smiley:

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Limits as in what? I believe theres nothing thats unforgivable, but certain things definitely are inexcusable.. there’s a difference…

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i forgive too easily:bummer: and msotly forget too :s

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Alexander Pope once said, "To err is human; to forgive, Divine." Believe it!

There is nothing so bad that cannot be forgiven. Nothing!HEALTHY love relationships are not possible without forgiveness! You cannot have a loving and rewarding relationship with anyone else, much less yourself, if you continue to hold on to things that happened in the past. Regardless of the situation, making peace with past love partners, your parents, children, your boss or anyone who you think may have "done you wrong" is the only way to improve your chances of a "healthy" relationship with yourself or anyone else for that matter!

......The things that two people in love do to each other they remember. And if they stay together, it is not because they forget, it is because they forgive.

Forgiveness is the key to your own happiness. Forgiving someone else takes moral courage. It ends the illusion of separation, and its power can change misery into happiness in an instant. Forgiveness means choosing to let go, move on, and favor the positive.

Forgiveness is a form of love within the context of a personal crisis. To forgive is, in a sense, to love one's enemy. When forgiveness is given because you think you should, it no longer is forgiveness but an act of self- interest.

thats enough for tosay I guess..hehe
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I’m a total pushover:smack: but I have improved in the pass 2 yrs ya know:D

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Please quote this from the website you got it from..otherwise it's called plagiarism.

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i take my time to forgive the other person:snooty: but theres one thing bad about me…no matter how much i try i CAN NOT forget it…it will stay in my heart and mind foreverrrrrrr…arghh…i know i know…its a not a good thing…im tryin to change myself:grumpy:

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No, its not necessarily a bad thing... it at least keeps you alert.... but if you truly forgive someone, try to forget it too... because if it stays in your mind, the ill-will towards the wrongdoer is likely to remain...