i always hear from my dad..forgive and forget…peaceeeeeeeeeeeee
i want to ask is it easy to forgive if someone did anything wrong to you and is it easy to forget
for me..if someone did anything wrong to me then it takes a long time to forgive that person but i never forget what he or she did
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It is VERY difficult...I remember at one time I took around 4yrs to forgive some1 who hurt me...but I also learnt that it is ONLY by forgiving that you can move on with your life and let time ACTUALLY heal ur wounds...coz otherwise time only makes your wounds deeper.
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Forgiveness can depend upon the gravity of the offense.
I don't agree with the whole "forgetting" idea. We tend to remember the most mundane and trivial of details in our daily lives..........and if we don't forget those........then how can you "forget" something that impacted your emotions on a more deeper level ( in this case, someone hurting you)?? You can't "forget" or "erase" the event from your life. And I don't think you should because a lesson can be learned from it. You don't forget...rather you try to "move on" from the offense and move forward with your life. Easier said then done...but inshaAllah with time, the intensity of the pain decreases.
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sometimes it really is so hard to forgive someone who you thought you were too close to. the hurt just takes over so badly and makes you so distance from them.
but we beg allah swt for forgiveness and expect him to forgive us - yet we find it so hard to forgive others.
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forgive but never forget!
it may be hard to forgive but as someone’s written above, tht it’s better to do so for yr own good in order to heal yr wounds..and as someone said “time’s the best cure”
too bad some wounds never heal:hinna:
i always hear from my dad..forgive and forget....peaceeeeeeeeeeeee
i want to ask is it easy to forgive if someone did anything wrong to you and is it easy to forget
for me..if someone did anything wrong to me then it takes a long time to forgive that person but i never forget what he or she did
yeah true.Bt its hard 4 me 2 4get but i 4giv 4 ALLAH.
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Forgive but never forget.
Depending on the severity of the situation i find it hard to forgive.
Mercy is Allah's perogative not mans... and therefore i as many know i hold particularly extreme views when it comes for forgiving.
Thats the problem i have with chivalry and courtesy these days... if you spare one **** chances are that same **** will come back at you so better make sure you know what yur doing.
From experience i find it ever more difficuilt to forgive these days... you only have to be bitten by a serpent once and live to be wise to thier ways... crush a serpent in your path for it makes the way easier for those who follow in your wake.
I may forgive but I don't forget... ever... how can u simply forget? ... even if ur able to glue pieces of a mirror back together, the cracks would still be visible.
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yeah i agree with someone's post above. time is a great healer.
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Yeah but no man will ever master time… 
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master time?!
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i guess sometimes its the best to just forget, forgive and move on ...
we cant change the past or what has happened anyways, nor can we take back things we have said or somebody else has said to us ..
obviously u cant forget everything u want, even if we sometimes wish we could, but i personally dun believe in holding grudges ..
I always believe its best to just move on & forgive
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master time?!
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My meaning was no man will ever be able to control time.
Sometimes it's good to settle ones differenes and forgive before death takes you and you cannot make any decision...
but at the same time when it comes to healing pain... what use is time? If say the jilted lover or the banished prince, or the dejected soul was short of time in life... perhaps he cannot afford to let time heal his pain becuase he knows his life will be short so does he take his hatred or vengeance with him to the grave?
Alas this is deep very deep. People say forgiving an evil act is an act of godliness or saintliness but even the Lord was stirred to wrath at times so whom can blame a mans anger if it wont let him forgive or forget.
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ah i get you now. your post is so deep and so so true.
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we say this all the time but honestly its very hard to do..easier said than done right..but its good for u to forgive n forget coz if u dont it will eat u up from the inside as holding onto grudges destroys ur health ..so sweetie i say forgive n forget the person who did anything wrong to u!
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^ very sound advice.
You sound like your talking from experience so i reckon thats the best advice so far, very short and sweet way of conveying such a complex issue. :aliyish:
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While forgiving well can be fine in my opinion but if every decent line is crossed then it kind of becomes hard to forget.
Always forgive ur enemies but never forget them…hmmmm…someone well said this 
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^ I know, I just did :hinna:
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^Keep thinking like that friend and you might end up like myself 
Anyhow in this world you reap what you sow… and i have the warrior come zamindar role 