Re: Forced marriages
^great post
@gr8Heera Firstly like i said don’t malign the character of my friend you don’t know her or what she has been through. Why do you have the mentality of a person where everything is the girls are fault. you have no idea what kind of environment she has come from. She went to Islamic girls only school, she got 12 A* at GCSE she wanted to be a doctor. Her dads relatives said it is not a good idea for girls to be too educated, then because her dad owed his brother money they wanted her to marry a son of theirs who had not even passed metric. The guy could not string a sentence of English together and you’re saying she would have been happy with him. she felt her last resort was to leave.
Maybe you might be able to survive in a marriage which isn’t well thought or partners are not compatible, but how would you feel if you where sold in marriage for a debt and a passport.
Secondly you are right there are always two sides of the coin yes SOME girls who wear hajab do have bf etc but do not try to justify wrongs by more wrongs. If parents see their daughter doing misdeeds then they should correct them, marrying someone off will not stabilise the girls or put them on the correct path to Allah.To me this seems like the parents washing their hands, ad being unfit to fufil their role properly. The girls will just do the acts in their inlaws house, because getting married to them is the biggest freedom.
There are all kinds of people in the world but to restrict your point of view for the sake of arguing or being unable to have any empathy will only restrict you in life. Look at your soul and think about what you are writing, because justifying something which is CLEARLY FORBIDDEN BY ALLAH swt with excuses by stating my friend was promiscuous because you saw a hajabi kissing her bf so you generalised that all girls do this. How would you feel if someone did this to you?
Don’t misguide people and tell them to live in fear and disregard the word of Allah swt. I never justified my friend leaving home. That is why I said if your parents are going to physically harm you, then you leave and make sure it is the last resort. Just as forced marriages are haram in Islam, we must all remember to respect our parents and find a balanced answer to problems which can be highly emotional and distressing to all parties involved, but a person should never compromise religion over culture.