Forced marriage - is it ever justified??

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Re: Forced marriage - is it ever justified??

@Niksik

Agree.

In the second case, again there are 2 situations:

1. That the girl thinks she isn’t ready for marriage because of whatever reason…but a good rishta comes along, the girl says no…just because, but the parents try to convince her to look at the potential rishta seriously. This has happened in my family. The girl had no valid reason but that she just didn’t feel like getting married. Parents were upset, convinced her, but her marriage ended up in a divorce because she started her married life with resistance. She saw everything with a negative point of view.
2. The girl doesn’t like the guy because he’s not up to her expectations. Parents like him so they try to convince her. Having daughters, I can say that if we have a potential rishta but my daughter isn’t satisfied, I’d like to listen to her thought and have her make the final decision..perhaps there’s something she is seeing that I as a parent am overlooking.

However, there are the perpetual whiners who think they are god’s gift to humanity and that the perfect guy hasn’t been created for them. They find faults in everything and react dramatically if someone finds a fault in them. Ummm, for these kind of people, I don’t really know…it’s their life I guess.

I know a girl who is my cousin actually… She didn’t want to get married.. she was just too stubborn… she also persuaded my another cousin and her own sister to not get married. She had really some bad excuses about marriage. But my another cousin got married because her parents forced her.. But after marriage she started saying “jis ney shadi nahin i us ney life main kuch na kiya” she is MAshaAllah happily married with 4 kids.

My other cousin got got married few years ago at the age of (around) 35. The one who was actually against marriage got married at the age of 40 and my phoppu did all the black mailing to her :p. But now she is too happily married. Her husband is really very loving and caring. So in my observation if there is good proposal parents should discuss it with daughters/sons. Their views will automatically change.