Having been inspired by Barbiecue’s thread ‘‘Break-ups and moving on’’, I wonder for whom is it more difficult to move on after a break-up – the one who takes the initiative to break things off between them or for the other person?
I believe the second person would feel a kind of sense of rejection because of the break-up but I believe it wouldn’t be easy for the first person as well,as they may start missing the person or may start feeling bad or may feel a sense of regret of taking such a step?
well hasn't the one that breaks it off already taken the steps to move on, she/he's realized that all moves to improve themselves and the relationship have been exhausted and haven't worked, so psychologically and emotionally that person has prepared themselves to end it.
i wonder if regret ever takes place when all ways of making the relationship have been unsuccessful though for the one trying to make it work.......? probably not, it's just accepting that sometimes life can be crappy and some relationships don't work out and it is for the best especially for the sanity of both or atleast for the sanity of the one that was feeling the most pain as a result of nothing improving
it would also depend on the relationship/people involved/what was wrong with the relationship
But sometimes it is more difficult for dumper. Because he/she has taken decision to end the relationship.
I **highly **doubt it. Because at the end of the day, even if the reason to break up is the most legitimate, can'tbeworkedaround reason, it still sucks to be the one that is being dumped. If it comes at you unexpectedly, anything, be it the end of a relationship or whatever, it is still hard to manage it than knowing full well what is going to happen.
I **highly **doubt it. Because at the end of the day, even if the reason to break up is the most legitimate, can'tbeworkedaround reason, it still sucks to be the one that is being dumped. If it comes at you unexpectedly, anything, be it the end of a relationship or whatever, it is still hard to manage it than knowing full well what is going to happen.
What if dumper has dumped dumpee because he/she is having feelings that if they wouldn't do that then the other person would do. Means actually dumper dumped to avoid being dumpee.
Sometimes dumper has all the regrets of breaking up because he/she didn't want to but he/she has to because he/she knows that other party si losing interest.
I don't know i am making any sense, but thats what i have observed in one case.
I **highly **doubt it. Because at the end of the day, even if the reason to break up is the most legitimate, can'tbeworkedaround reason, it still sucks to be the one that is being dumped. If it comes at you unexpectedly, anything, be it the end of a relationship or whatever, it is still hard to manage it than knowing full well what is going to happen.
What if dumpee wanted to end the relationship but he/she has no guts to do that and actually waiting for the right time to dump the other party, in this scenario he/she must be more happy being a dumpee because now they can defend themselves by saying "hum ney tu breakup nahin kia, tum ney break up kia tha" but actually they wanted to.
What if dumper has dumped dumpee because he/she is having feelings that if they wouldn't do that then the other person would do. Means actually dumper dumped to avoid being dumpee.
Sometimes dumper has all the regrets of breaking up because he/she didn't want to but he/she has to because he/she knows that other party si losing interest.
I don't know i am making any sense, but thats what i have observed in one case.
What if dumpee wanted to end the relationship but he/she has no guts to do that and actually waiting for the right time to dump the other party, in this scenario he/she must be more happy being a dumpee because now they can defend themselves by saying "hum ney tu breakup nahin kia, tum ney break up kia tha" but actually they wanted to.
Please step right in and welcome to the real world where nothing is as you speculate it to be. :)
Even if you wanted to end the relationship, it still is hard to get over something if you didnt' take the initiative. How about this. How about you go get into a relationship, no wait, 2 different ones. Then in one, be the dumped one, and another, the dumpee, and come back and let us know empirically. Because clearly, the experiences of thousands, if not millions, all over the world and throughout history means absolutely nothing.
and what if i say i am the one who has a personal experience… then???
In fact i am the one who is dumper and depressed and he is the one who is dumpee and very cool about all this. Should i post my story here for more gossips (that i don’t want to post my stupid story here) or is it enough for you to believe that i am not speculating anything.
Please step right in and welcome to the real world where nothing is as you speculate it to be. :)
Even if you wanted to end the relationship, it still is hard to get over something if you didnt' take the initiative. How about this. How about you go get into a relationship, no wait, 2 different ones. Then in one, be the dumped one, and another, the dumpee, and come back and let us know empirically. Because clearly, the experiences of thousands, if not millions, all over the world and throughout history means absolutely nothing.
and one more thing Murgi.. i didn't say that it is always difficult for dumper i said SOMETIMES. Obviously it depends on situation.
you already posted in this thread nomi. You’re two posts are highly opposite of each other.
