For those of you who grew up abroad.....

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Re: For those of you who grew up abroad…

@inspiron

When you visit pakistan how does it go for you?

DO you fit right in? Do you feel like your being judged? I mean I would like to know your experiences and opinions esp with regards to extended family.

I get along with my khalas and phuppas and chaachis, but there are certain cousins who have not been good to my parents and I just cannot get on with them or respect them because they have been bad to my parents and it is awkward.

Also because I am from ‘Bahar’ I always try very hard to dress appropriately,speak in urdu all the time and play close attention to my tameez and also what I say. I DO feel like i am constantly being judged and I try very hard particularly so no one can say anything bad about my parents!

I don’t fit right in considering I’ve been living in the U.A.E 18 years. I get judged quite a lot but I don’t mind. LOL I get judged here too. My maternal grandparents and mamoos/khalas live here so everything is normal with them. But, with the paternal side things get rocky quite fast. I don’t like my dad’s side of the family except for the grandparents, because all of them are greedy people who like to talk about wealth and social status and class. It’s the 21st century, people.

I’m from ‘Bahar’ but I dress the way I want, eat what I want and speak with what I feel comfortable with, which is English. People have been saying bad stuff about my parents from day 1 of their marriage, so me being good in front of them, won’t make much of a difference