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We’re all induviduals with likes/dislikes and traits.
I see myself as someone who is simple so I want someone like minded. Many take my simple the wrong way, because I am also sophisticated.
Weird I know.. 
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It's always funny to see the demands of women. (NOT that it is wrong)/
I feel sorry for most men already. Lol
Why is it so funny?
If you read most of hte posts here, most women want someone who is reasonably attractive, makes a good living and is of a good character...and Pakistani/Muslim of course.....nothing about that is unreasonable at all.
To paraphrase somethign I read in another thread--whatever happened to girls being told that they deserve only the best? That they're valuable and demand their full worth?
Islam talks about women being valuable and women should be treated with respect.....yet guys balk when a woman dares to have a standard.
So yeah, i guess guys should feel threatened :)
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Why is it so funny?
If you read most of hte posts here, most women want someone who is reasonably attractive, makes a good living and is of a good character...and Pakistani/Muslim of course.....nothing about that is unreasonable at all.
To paraphrase somethign I read in another thread--whatever happened to girls being told that they deserve only the best? That they're valuable and demand their full worth?
Islam talks about women being valuable and women should be treated with respect.....yet guys balk when a woman dares to have a standard.
So yeah, i guess guys should feel threatened :)
I have seen some ridiculous demands in the past.
I don't think I contradict anything you wrote. So, if this is your effort to try pinning some negativity on me then I can assure you its all good humour.
You seriously need to lighten up? and take life less seriously.
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I have seen some ridiculous demands in the past.
I don't think I contradict anything you wrote. So, if this is your effort to try pinning some negativity on me then I can assure you its all good humour.
You seriously need to lighten up? and take life less seriously.
Yeah some women have ridiculous demands....but majority of them don't.
Fact is, nobody should be okay with marrying the first person who pays attention to them, EVERYBODY has some kind of standards...some have lower and some have higher, that's all...but standards are present.
People need to get out fo the mentality that women don't deserve have to standards because it's getting really tiring and old.
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Nooo u said its funny when women have standards....as if they should be okay wtih marrying the first guy who pays any attention to them...
Im not pinning negativity on you, but yes, the attitude that people don't deserve to have standards when it comes to marriage is getting really tiring and old.
No, I did not write it is funny for women to have standards. Maybe you should re read what I wrote including the brackets.
I think you either misread or misunderstood what I wrote, which I think was quite simple and straightforward.
Have a good day.
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Fair enough, at least you said that theres nothign wrong with it
but why is it funny and why do you feel sorry for the men? i’m just curious to know.
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I was joking, Sara. Honestly, you should just drop it. Lol, omg.
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Lol ok fine!
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Lol ok fine!
Shukriya :)
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How many things out of, lets say a list of ten, should be ticked when deciding to marry a man or when you decided to marry him. Some wise aunties say that even if six of these things are ticked you should go for it. The list could look something like this: (of course it may be different for everyone acc. to their priorities)
Muslim Pakistani-origin education height good job/ income good family background (to assure he's shareef, good-natured etc. etc.) nice/loving mom and dad (would be saas sussar) you find him attractive in appearance possible family setup you'll be living in (single unit or joint or whatever) Conservative/ moderate/ liberal (acc. to your preference i.e will have no problem with u working etc.)
How many and which of these need to be absolutely ticked for you to seriously consider marrying him?
Wow, you ladies are such day dreamers!
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Muslim - must
Pakistani-origin - doesn't matter at all.
education - yes, not limited to university or college though
height - doesn't matter
good job/ income - hard worker, no bum
good family background (to assure he's shareef, good-natured etc. etc.) - doesn't matter. I'm from a shareef family and I'm a ****-talker :D
nice/loving mom and dad (would be saas sussar) - doesn't matter.plus you can't tell these things before marriage anyways
you find him attractive in appearance - Yes
possible family setup you'll be living in (single unit or joint or whatever) - yes, need him to be independent, need my own space
Conservative/ moderate/ liberal (acc. to your preference i.e will have no problem with u working etc.) - yes, prefer him to be a better muslim then me.
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He should have no religion
He should have no ethnicity
He should be uneducated, if he ever goes near an educational institution or opens up a book I will not say yes
He should be shorter than I…I am 5’3…so I am looking for men who are at least 4’10
He should not work or make any money…I want him to stay home and watch TV all day…this way we can eventually move in with my parents
He should not have a decent family background…someone who comes from a family of criminals would be ideal
I dont want to find him attractive as that might mean kids and God knows we dont need anymore of him running around
I hope these things are acceptable to most men as the other ladies in this thread are such daydreamers…
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Thanks, that gives me some hope
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okay my turn 
Muslim
Pakistani-origin
education - at least bachelor-level
height - (taller than me) at least 5’10
good job/ income - yes/ the wealthier the better
good family background (to assure he’s shareef, good-natured etc. etc.) - would be a plus
nice/loving mom and dad (would be saas sussar) - would be a plus plus
you find him attractive in appearance
possible family setup you’ll be living in (single unit or joint or whatever) - preference would be single unit
Conservative/ moderate/ liberal (acc. to your preference i.e will have no problem with u working etc.)
Now here are six in order of importance:
muslim
pak-origin
character (family bckground)
education
good job/ income
attractive appearance
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Do you ladies care to enlighten us what "good income" means in dollar amounts?
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^ I'd say anywhere from 30K and onwards.....
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About 50% of the people in the US make more than $30k a year. http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/103282/a_portrait_of_america_part_2.html
That could be as low as 10% in a poor nation like Pakistan.
Planet-wide, $30k a year means you’re in the top 7%. http://www.globalrichlist.com/
Now to deserve this, do you think the average Guppan’s attractiveness ranks in the top 50% of women in the US. Probably. Top 10% in Pakistan, probably not. Top 7% in the world? Definitely not.
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yeah but I'm talking about in USA....obviously whats a decent living wage is different in pakistan/UK/elsewhere etc
and its funny how it always comes down to guppans being unattractive.. :)
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How does attractiveness equate to income/ job? Attractiveness should be equated to attractiveness (if we have to do that), or the two individuals’ preferences in this regard.
And do you think you deserve everything you put on your list (in the other thread)? Or that you deserve someone attractive only if you make more than 30 k US $?
PS: idea of a good income can be different for different women.
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Do you ladies care to enlighten us what "good income" means in dollar amounts?
wouldn't it depend on the cost of living in whichever state you live in? for instance the cost of living in a place like los angeles is significantly higher than the cost of living in say a place like little rock, arkansas. any dollar amount that allows for comfortable living without worrying whether they can make the rent or the mortage payments on time while trying to put food on the table. financial security