I got this idea when i have seen sanabana topic , it was about the love between Joda and Akbar and I wat thinking about how is it in real life to get engaged with somebody yu don’t know ? . Because they are many girls in Pakistan and also abroad who are engaged with someone they don’t know. I’m not talking about cousins but about guys you have never seen…. I would like to hear stories when you have seen him first time, how was the feeling do yu expected that he would be cute , or yu was shocked because he is so different… tell me tell me !!
I had an arranged marriage but only got to see him a week before my nikkah..... Altho i had a choice there was alot of pressure for me to say yes as preparations had already begun. I met him at a hotel and he had come straight from work so his eyes were red and he looked slightly scruffy with his hair.. i thought it was cute lol coz he had no idea that he was supposed to meet me until a few hours before.
I didnt want to talk to him but we were forced to have very general conversation as there was too much family about i felt imbarrased. My dad did ask if he wanted me to arrange a meeting alone with him but i told my dad why should the girls side be the ones to intigate it!!! At the time i thought he's the guy HE should persue ME! lol so although i met him, my family knew him very well but i had never seen him before.
I was really nervous before and i remember when leaving the restraunt his father bought me forward and told us BOTH to have a good look at each other LOL i was going RED in the face and found the floor to look VERY interesting!!!
The chemistry was there though
Before the meeting though I remember going through loads of negative emotions but in the end i decided to leave it all to allah because if this rishta was going to happen then it would have regardless as kismat is already written. Im a strong believer in that, and found myself to worry alot less after i implemented this approach to dealing with it.
After nikkah we went out a few times and then i had to come back to londres :( now just looking forward to getting married in october :)
I had an arranged marriage but only got to see him a week before my nikkah..... Altho i had a choice there was alot of pressure for me to say yes as preparations had already begun. I met him at a hotel and he had come straight from work so his eyes were red and he looked slightly scruffy with his hair.. i thought it was cute lol coz he had no idea that he was supposed to meet me until a few hours before.
I didnt want to talk to him but we were forced to have very general conversation as there was too much family about i felt imbarrased. My dad did ask if he wanted me to arrange a meeting alone with him but i told my dad why should the girls side be the ones to intigate it!!! At the time i thought he's the guy HE should persue ME! lol so although i met him, my family knew him very well but i had never seen him before.
I was really nervous before and i remember when leaving the restraunt his father bought me forward and told us BOTH to have a good look at each other LOL i was going RED in the face and found the floor to look VERY interesting!!!
The chemistry was there though
Before the meeting though I remember going through loads of negative emotions but in the end i decided to leave it all to allah because if this rishta was going to happen then it would have regardless as kismat is already written. Im a strong believer in that, and found myself to worry alot less after i implemented this approach to dealing with it.
After nikkah we went out a few times and then i had to come back to londres :( now just looking forward to getting married in october :)
My mom has 8 sisters, mA, and all of them had arranged marriages (inluding my mother). In my mom's case, she was in her last year of med school and my dad saw her while visiting her house (he used to work with my grandfather). He took his mom to the hospital where mom was working so they could meet her. Few weeks later they sent the proposal and everything was set. My mom tried protesting because she wasn't interested in getting married so soon and hadn't even seen the pictures.. but my grandpa was like, maine zabaan dey di hai.. lol.. so one day her cousin said, let's take you to see him.. we can sit in the car outside his house around the time he comes home from work and you can see what he looks like. When my mom saw him, she was like OMG, HE'S THAT GUY who came pretending to be my patient! lol..
The rest of the sisters, they never asked to meet their fiances, not even to talk to them.. until the day of the wedding which I find so odd.
I had an arranged marriage but only got to see him a week before my nikkah..... Altho i had a choice there was alot of pressure for me to say yes as preparations had already begun. I met him at a hotel and he had come straight from work so his eyes were red and he looked slightly scruffy with his hair.. i thought it was cute lol coz he had no idea that he was supposed to meet me until a few hours before.
I didnt want to talk to him but we were forced to have very general conversation as there was too much family about i felt imbarrased. My dad did ask if he wanted me to arrange a meeting alone with him but i told my dad why should the girls side be the ones to intigate it!!! At the time i thought he's the guy HE should persue ME! lol so although i met him, my family knew him very well but i had never seen him before.
I was really nervous before and i remember when leaving the restraunt his father bought me forward and told us BOTH to have a good look at each other LOL i was going RED in the face and found the floor to look VERY interesting!!!
The chemistry was there though
Before the meeting though I remember going through loads of negative emotions but in the end i decided to leave it all to allah because if this rishta was going to happen then it would have regardless as kismat is already written. Im a strong believer in that, and found myself to worry alot less after i implemented this approach to dealing with it.
After nikkah we went out a few times and then i had to come back to londres :( now just looking forward to getting married in october :)
Thats my lil story so far lol
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Soo that is a very cute story Faari , firstly I’m so proud at you that you still believe in arrange marriage ;) !! may Allah will bless your wedding ! I have to laugh about yu story when you dad have purposed you to look to each other … thanks for the lovely story!
My mom has 8 sisters, mA, and all of them had arranged marriages (inluding my mother). In my mom's case, she was in her last year of med school and my dad saw her while visiting her house (he used to work with my grandfather). He took his mom to the hospital where mom was working so they could meet her. Few weeks later they sent the proposal and everything was set. My mom tried protesting because she wasn't interested in getting married so soon and hadn't even seen the pictures.. but my grandpa was like, maine zabaan dey di hai.. lol.. so one day her cousin said, let's take you to see him.. we can sit in the car outside his house around the time he comes home from work and you can see what he looks like. When my mom saw him, she was like OMG, HE'S THAT GUY who came pretending to be my patient! lol..
The rest of the sisters, they never asked to meet their fiances, not even to talk to them.. until the day of the wedding which I find so odd.
Hahah it seems like your mom was immediately in love with your dad ! (funny about your dad that he was pretending to be a patient haha ), very nice story Paraazy I like your family tradition. :)
Well in my case I'm engaged to the cousin of my cousin. I know him since my khal's marriage like 22 years back but never talked with him just know him and his family..well and ya we r not allowed to talk, I get to know about him through my cousin that he is happy with me but dont know how I will react as he is kind of totally a stranger for me...pata nahee dr lagta hai :(
I'm having an arranged marriage. Saw my fiance once before the engagement. Since we are in different countries will see him on the wedding in dec, inshaAllah. And yes I'm freaking out!! please pay for me...
I'm having an arranged marriage. Saw my fiance once before the engagement. Since we are in different countries will see him on the wedding in dec, inshaAllah. And yes I'm freaking out!! please pay for me...
do u talk to him??for me also we live in different countries too and can't talk :P
Well in my case I'm engaged to the cousin of my cousin. I know him since my khal's marriage like 22 years back but never talked with him just know him and his family..well and ya we r not allowed to talk, I get to know about him through my cousin that he is happy with me but dont know how I will react as he is kind of totally a stranger for me...pata nahee dr lagta hai :(
Don't be afraid jaan ! Allah will bless yu, mhm it is a little bit difficult if yu don't get the chance to talk with each other, but it makes after wedding so special to know each other ! so after wedding you have some long conversation with your hubbie ! that little bit shy and love talk hayeee hahah
I'm having an arranged marriage. Saw my fiance once before the engagement. Since we are in different countries will see him on the wedding in dec, inshaAllah. And yes I'm freaking out!! please pay for me...
Don't be afraid Allah will bless yu !! How was he when yu have seen him first time ?
do u talk to him??for me also we live in different countries too and can't talk :P
For all u who are saying you can't talk..why not? There is so much technology now and u should make use of it...e-mails and chatting...use this time to get to know each other...my BIL is getting engaged Inshallah to a girl in Pak (we r in USA) and we got permission from her dad for him to talk ot her, and her dad is religious man, ad understood and said of course, and we are ecnouraging them to use e-mail and chatting services to correspond....when i got married in 1994...i had nikah first and wedding after 6 months, and we were in separate countries...I had spoken to him a couple of times, but no real conversation...but my husband would write to me frequently, and would even call from PAkistan...and it was very sweet bc his letters were very romanitc...and I still cherish those memories...
to u girls and guys dont let this time go just like that...it is a very special time, enjoy it and do not waste it the opportunity...there will never be another time in your life like this time of after engagement/nikah and early married days...
For all u who are saying you can't talk..why not? There is so much technology now and u should make use of it...e-mails and chatting...use this time to get to know each other...my BIL is getting engaged Inshallah to a girl in Pak (we r in USA) and we got permission from her dad for him to talk ot her, and her dad is religious man, ad understood and said of course, and we are ecnouraging them to use e-mail and chatting services to correspond....when i got married in 1994...i had nikah first and wedding after 6 months, and we were in separate countries...I had spoken to him a couple of times, but no real conversation...but my husband would write to me frequently, and would even call from PAkistan...and it was very sweet bc his letters were very romanitc...and I still cherish those memories...
to u girls and guys dont let this time go just like that...it is a very special time, enjoy it and do not waste it the opportunity...there will never be another time in your life like this time of after engagement/nikah and early married days...
well not allowed to talk dear, respecting the words of my parents :)
Soo that is a very cute story Faari , firstly I’m so proud at you that you still believe in arrange marriage ;) !! may Allah will bless your wedding ! I have to laugh about yu story when you dad have purposed you to look to each other … thanks for the lovely story!