Re: For some odd reason…
ou make a very good point - what some of those requirements represent is a proxy measure for mental compatibility. A successful marriage is not based on wealth and material goods - it is based on shared values and visions that a couple has for their life TOGETHER. Differences of opinion are natural - but differences in values and priorities can be fatal to a relationship.
Not all women, but a reasonable woman who values her husband and her relationship would make the compromises necessary to make her relationship successful. She doesn’t need the 4 bedroom home with 2 cars in the garage, two vacations a year and designer clothes hanging in the closet.
She wants a husband who says the following:
- I am proud of you for your accomplishments (this does not mean the promotion at work, but even something as like running the household well)
- I value you for your contributions to our family
- I trust you to raise our children with the right values
- Your opinion matters and you and our family are a priority in my life
- We can work together to realize our mutual goals