…I foresee the generation (mine specifically) of Pakistanis either getting married very late or not married at all. Basically taking Life 1 into account and real life, the population between 20 and 30 will either marry very late or not marry at all.
This applies to both genders.
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^well then.....you'll just have a greater variety of women AND men to pick from. :p
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Yeah so what is the odd reason?
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While you're forseeing would you look into your crystal ball and tell me if my frog is somewhere out there ???
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Dinner. French Consulate. He was roasted with peanuts.
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Why would someone marry a frog! 
Frogs are to be consumed or to be used in medics.
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I'm notice that more and more, especially amongst friends. Most of my family members were married in their mid/late twenties, but very few of my desi friends are married.
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Not according to fairytales 
I don’t know if I can be classified in your generation CM, but I did marry in my late 20s.
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Ahhhhhh Mon cherie ! He went out with style 
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I’ve been told with frogs there is always a chance kissing them u may end up with a prince 
but if u marry a prince and kiss him and he turns into a frog can u imagine how all your expectations cud be shattered 
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Is this a troubling matter to you?
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What's 'very late?'
In the UK the average age if marriage is 30 for men and 28 for women.. Not that bad..
Amongst the desis we know it's practically unheard of for a girl to get married before 22/23, average is 24-28 (in my own family it's sort of an unwritten rule not to marry before 23/24). For the boys it's usually 27-30..
Nothing wrong with marrying later than our parents and grandparents tended to.. Most desi women of those generations didn't get the chance to get a higher education and so were totally dependent on their parents and spouse.. not a nice situation to be in imo
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lol. sheyn here is your frogie 
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***Zobiaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 
Ok now do u see what i’m saying…frogs or princes’…They ALL want one thing 
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CM . . . I predicted this thing sometime back in one of my threads . I can see guys around me in their early 30z to late 30z and 40z , and not married . Pakistani society is getting very adoptive of them .
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.....I foresee the generation (mine specifically) of Pakistanis either getting married very late or not married at all. Basically taking Life 1 into account and real life, the population between 20 and 30 will either marry very late or not marry at all.
This applies to both genders.
My SO actually mentioned this a few days ago. How he would not be surprised if our future kids did not get married at all b/c of this "trend" he sees.
I don't think this is only with Pakistanis...but desis and the society in general. SO & I know women (desis and non desis) who're in their mid-30's and still not married...they're happy with their career and being single...yes some of them date and have BFs, but they're not in a rush to get married or "settle down".
We also know men (desis and non desis) in their mid to late 30's, who're also not in a rush to get married. These people are open to the idea of marriage/family.....but it's not something that's on the top of the priority list. All these men and women are educated, very successful with a large group of friends. But they don't have a time limit on when they "need" to get married or have kids.
And SO knows plenty of men and women at his work who are divorced (age 40 and up)...who have no plans to re-marry.
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I have seen mainly two streams lately;
parents getting girls married very young, hardly out of college....who stay at home or continue education, whatever their circumstances
the other ones are in the late 20s/30s who are getting professional education. This takes time and changes the person's outlook, preferences for life, therefore finding a good prospect takes time
AND........ when you dont find someone worthy, its better to remain single than marry a loser :D
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:k: totally agree, better than marrying somebody impulsively on the basis of settling for just anybody for the sake of society so lips don’t flap in gossip. if that makes sense
CM
what’s stopping pakistani men from getting married now if they are well settled? i dont’ get it, pakistanis girls are gorgeous the ones that are ABCDs like us are all educated…is it just fear of what marriage might bring?
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Experience tells me direct insults tend to stop the gossipers…
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Nisha it is very simple. It is finding the right girl. Dating is more common in Pakistani society, but for some reason, the divorce rate has also increased substantially. Additionally I am gonna get a lot of abuse for this, but most Pakistani girls know its true. Unrealistic standards. A guy starting off and starting to get settled in his job and life will not maintain the same standard of living a girls father maintains at the peak or end of his career. Girls basically need to step down off their high horses when they marry a guy starting off. Very few are willing to do that.
Additionally superficial standards. Whats worse is that there are fewer "good men" than "good women". So most guys do not have to wait around to find a good girl. Girls on the other hand have a worse off situation.
Lastly men in Pakistani society have it easier. They can marry "foreign" women and not face the same backlash as Pakistani girls. So that provides more avenues for finding a more compatible girl. If you read these forums, you will find very few guys seriously complaining about their marriages. Yet all the ladies do.
Reha, nothing troubles me. Allah decides, I merely follow.
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Hey! I married a Froggie
I think people have just become a lot fussier as time has gone on. I suggest you all lower your standards a little or you’ll end up being bitter spinsters and cranky curmudgeons.
Oh wait…