For dads … Suppose somthg bad hapen in a family n at the end u hav to choose 1 out of 2 ..Either ur wife or ur daughter … whom will u gooona chooose to live ..n lets suppose ur daughter age is ard 23 n u love them both from ur deep heart… n u hav tried each n everything with ur level best …now u cant think of any patch up b/w them
Same scenario for mom …Suppose the same kinda somthg bad fgt hapen in a family n at the end u hav to choose 1 out of 2 ..Either ur husb or ur son… whom will u gooona chooose to live ..n lets suppose ur Son age is ard 23 n u love them both …
Conditions :-if u choose 1 of them … u wont b able to meet the other1 in ur whole life … no contact … n son n daughter are nt independent enough to stay alone … In short no other solution occurs other thn choosin 1 …
This is the oldest psychological tests in the book.
Their are 3 types of love: Eros, Philos, and Agape.
**Eros **love is based on strong feelings toward one another and it usually occurs in a romantic relationship (husband and wife).
**Philos **love is based on a friendship between two people (friend and friend).
It is true that two lovers that start out by being friends first before becoming partners usually are the relationships that last more, long-term.
**Agape **love is considered the "highest type" of love, i.e it's unconditional love. Agape love is considered the ultimate type of love, as it is completely selfless, and it doesn't even matter if that love is reciprocated or not...... this is the type of love that a mother has (mother and child).
In context to your scenario, it has been scientifically proven that:
=> Most men will choose their wives.
=> Most women will choose their children. Because women are more nurturing and are more likely to be overcome with "agape love" than men.
^ true that… but i reckon most of our desi mommies (the old school ones) would choose their hubbies. At least, thats what they show on those dramas :halo:
I would choose neither.
I might agree with one more than the other… but it would never make me leave the other. But this REALLY depends on the scenario… as in, what the actual dispute is about
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In context to your scenario, it has been scientifically proven that:
=> Most men will choose their wives.
=> Most women will choose their children. Because women are more nurturing and are more liekly to be overcome with "agape love" than men.
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Let me clear one more thing ... for dad .. this condition occurs coz of father extra laad piyar to his daughter ...thts wht mom dont lik .. n daughter use abusive tongue with mom as both dont hav a good kinda mom daughter bonding ...
and For same thing lik mom love her son soo much n due to her extra laaad piyaar n pampering ... dad n son do fight alot .... now above ...^^^ ths scenrio mensioned above occurs .... where they hav to choooooooseee ...............?
parents should always agree with one another infront of children. They should be one entity when talking to their children... behind doors.. in privacy, they can discuss their differences and come to a conclusion together.
This is why kids get confused... or how they start munipiplating one parent over another. Kids are smart... they know how to get their way
Here the mommy is modern kinda well educated career oriented women with strong financial background ..lik having big house … bank balance ..n property …etc
I would choose neither.
I might agree with one more than the other… but it would never make me leave the other. But this REALLY depends on the scenario… as in, what the actual dispute is about
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parents should always agree with one another infront of children. They should be one entity when talking to their children... behind doors.. in privacy, they can discuss their differences and come to a conclusion together.
This is why kids get confused... or how they start munipiplating one parent over another. Kids are smart... they know how to get their way
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r u married ? if yes jst tel if somthg lik ths happend whom wil u choose ... ? i knw choosing 1 out the these beloved ones ... its really a big risk kinda ... but no other solution occurs...
ya third option might occurs ... tht u will run far away from ur family wont lik to come back coz tht hurts u alot ... separation or bla bla thingss.......
Here the mommy is modern kinda well educated career oriented women with strong financial background ..lik having big house ... bank balance ..n property ...etc
I would choose neither.
I might agree with one more than the other... but it would never make me leave the other. But this REALLY depends on the scenario... as in, what the actual dispute is about
what does the mothers financial background have anything to do with the relationship she has with her child? or for that matter.. with ther husband?
her financial background is zilch when she gets married.... her financial background should be one of her and her hubby's... TOGETHER.
This is something i will never understand... When u get married, when u have kids... u become parents together. Yes, u r still individuals in a lot of things, but when u r parenting, u need to be one. Who cares about what ur financial backfround or status was before u got married.
and these options are silly… they are starplus derived options
I would choose neither. And running away is rather a selfish decision.
Life throws a lot of bricks and stones at us… are we that weak that we cant face things?
Id talk to both parties involved and see how we can come to a conclusion. If they make me choose between them both, it means neither of them loves me.. so there
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her financial background is zilch when she gets married.... her financial background should be one of her and her hubby's... TOGETHER.
This is something i will never understand... When u get married, when u have kids... u become parents together. Yes, u r still individuals in a lot of things, but when u r parenting, u need to be one. Who cares about what ur financial backfround or status was before u got married.
Honestly people...
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let me add some more ... this couple dont hav any understanding as both blongs to rich families ... unfortunately ...these people didnt make any strong bond as they ver highly busy in their jobss ... both dont hv much time .. n hav formal husb n wife relations jst for a showw off ... so tht other peep feel lik n think of them as wonderful couple ...
n if u … Oooh so u will run away … thts again a silly option … thts the least tht u wil do … n u wil goona go the last 1 … wont u think of ur child … the difficulties he will goona face ???
Oooh so u will run away ... thts again a silly option ... thts the least tht u wil do ... n u wil goona go the last 1 ... wont u think of ur child ... the difficulties he will goona face ?????
for God's sake... read what i wrote... PROPERLY before commenting
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why bring a child into a world like this then?
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ya thts a nice question.... ya at tht time they hav feeling lik ... after the child birth ... they feel lik thingss will goona b okkk ...lik couples do .....but nothing lik ths happend ...in reality ...
