Re: For men: Career or home, would you let your wife decide?
Like Mmof3 said, the decision or discussion should be made before marriage.
1- After marriage only if the need arise, the discussion should be made of advantages or disadvantages.
2- Marrying a 'career' woman and 'make her' sit at home is bad in general. (please note I did not say 'educated' woman)
But if the household or children are potentially get disrupted by her going out to work then she must stay home. Especially if the man is perfectly able to provide the good necessities of life.
3- It is the woman's job to take care of household/kids first. This has nothing to do with desi or non-desi culture. It is universal.
4- There are men who marry physicians/lawyers/accountants/CPA/ Engineers and then ask, coerce or force them to stay home. Unless some special circumstances require, these women should be given the free choice.
The man should not say, "I am able to provide so you stay home and leave your career."
5- It is the man's job to provide and hence he should not be given a 'choice'.