How many of you men would be okay with your wife (current/future) deciding whether she wanted to stay home or work? Before kids, after kids?
I’m not asking if you would be okay with her working or not, I’m asking if you would leave it up to her and let her decide?
Be honest 
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hmmm the question is directed to men , so I guess I cannot answer.
LOL... okay, you can answer this.... Would you let your husband decide if he wants to work or stay home :p
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Its an interesting situation. Because in a marriage nothing is an individual decision. Will it be solely her choice? Nope. Will be solely my choice? Nope. It will be a discussion between the two of us to see what best benefits the marriage and both of us.
If we started to do stuff solely, why the **** did i get married? I get can laid outside of marriage as well.
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Oh come on of course he needs to work or else hum khaain ge kahan se ???
Cant leave it on him to decide 
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discussed implications on lifestyle, homelife, personal interests and then left it up to her to decide what she wanted to do, then discussed her decision, so we were on the same page in terms of pros and cons and short and long term impact of it.
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I think these things are better decided BEFORE marriage. If you want a housewife, choose a girl who shares the same opinion, no point in ruining your life marrying a career-oriented gal who would argue her right to work till death. If you want a career woman, choose one, no point in forcing your wife later on, to go out and earn.
Personally, I don't think there'd be much to discuss. The decision is already a no.
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BIG NO. :D that's why im making easy on myself and marrying a wife who wants to be housewife :)
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if the man makes enuf and wife wants to stay home then why NOT? otherwise, husband shouldn't have any qualms if she decides to work. i will leave it to her to decide. :)
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shouldnt it be a joint decision? or even a discussion?
shouldnt it be a joint decision? or even a discussion?
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offcourse, indeed...but at the end of the day its her decision. u can tell her/him what u think is best in the interest of the family and reason well and may be encourage and thats about it :) atleast for me.**
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No my wife only gets to decide whether she wants to breathe or not. Everything else gets decided by me. : Oogaboga:
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Can I meet her? I'd like to persuade her to make you NOT breathe.
muahahahaha
Erm. Ok.
In todays world a woman with a good education sitting at home is wasting and insulting her intelligence to be honest. I'd prefer that my future wife worked but it would her choice, not mine.
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I think it depends on whether children are in the picture. As the man of the household, I always plan on making enough to meet the needs of the family.
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^ thats fine... its not always about the money. Work for women is not JUST about money... or shall i say, in most cases, its NOT about money..
why dont guys get that
^ thats fine... its not always about the money. Work for women is not JUST about money... or shall i say, in most cases, its NOT about money..
why dont guys get that
Well if it's something like personal fulfillment or enrichment then sure why not, there are plenty of consulting situations around.
This is clearly a gray area, if money is not involved because then we can also talk about volunteer opportunities right?
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so a girl works her butt off for lets say a good 18 or so years, for what.... volunteer work? i thought volunteer work was something u do on the side.. of work
so a girl works her butt off for lets say a good 18 or so years, for what.... volunteer work? i thought volunteer work was something u do on the side.. of work
Well you thought wrong. Maybe you should read more about what constitutes volunteer work. Besides you were the one who said it's not necessarily about the money.
Also, if you look at Women's history prior to 1920s, you would know the amazing contributions of women volunteers who -gasp!- worked for 18 or more years in a volunteer capacity.
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What im saying is that, working is not about money. For some its a sense of achievement, a sense of being able to do something. A sense of recognition... being able to contribute to an organsation. Be able to make decisions... just be able to do something for themselves..
believe me, i have NOTHING against volunteer work, or those that do it.... what i have a problem with is husbands giving their wives options of "volunteer" work rather than letting them make up their own mind.... why can she not have a business of her own, why can she not be an IT consultant.. why cant she be an accountant... even further pursue her goals in becoming a chartered accountant?
why just volunteer work?