Re: For men: Career or home, would you let your wife decide?
I will only marry (Insh'Allah) someone from my career choice who wants to work, hence pre-empting the entire issue of whether she should work or not.
In my opinion, and looking at the families in our social circles, the kids with working parents are more sensible, independent and mature than the kids with house-wife mothers who even though they're well past their teens still can't make their beds if their life depended on it.
Also, in my experience, housewives are more likely to have the 'nakhray' culture whereas working women are fully aware of what is required to put food on the table. This is a generalisation, so please no flipping out; it's just what I've seen.
As for kids, I would want her to take a couple of years out, and then resume her career. I think many women wouldn't mind doing that anyway.