(for men)are you or would you be close to your in-laws?

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Re: (for men)are you or would you be close to your in-laws?

@MIAinVA

^Actually, you said most muslim couples in USA have the same last name… which I have not seen.
All the Pakistani females I know have their husband’s first name as last name or have kept their maiden names. I even have some Lebanese and Iranian females working with me… they all have kept their maiden names.

Just asked my students. Three of them said that their moms kept their maiden names. One of them said that his mom would have gone to back to her maiden name if she knew that it wasn’t required for her to change it. I just remembered that one of students from last year…his mom is Desi and she kept her maiden name. I have a Pakistani friend who kept her maiden name…and have encountered several other Muslim women who also did not take on their husband’s last name. If I get married…I plan to keep my maiden name. The children can take on the father’s last name to represent the lineage…the wife is not required to do so.

People vary in terms of their experiences (the people they encounter), but just because “all” the women that an individual has encountered changed their last names…that doesn’t mean that every single Muslim woman outside of that person’s social circle also did the same thing, LOL.