Re: For married people
Muzna is correct in that no one here is advocating divorce as the end all and be all answer. We're just pointing out that for some people and some families it is the better choice, and to label a women and unethical or taking the easy road is unfair.
My parents separated 3 times during their 19 year marriage and all three times sought counseling,help and every known remedy through the masjid, community elders and traditional therapy. It just wasn't meant to be. Not one time was their a vicious custody battle or bad mouthing each other or using us children as pawns. It was about a man and a women who truly could not function as a couple and found it best to end their marriage for the sake of all involved.
There is no right or wrong answer. What applies for one may not work for another.
I'd just like to add that for those of us who have lived through it as children were not doomed to miserable lives because of our parents separation. We are functioning, educated, normal people. My marriage is already 1000% better than my parents' ever was, most because I had my own childhood experiences to guide me and remind me of what NOT to do or say. I learned from their mistakes.
