Re: For married people
^This!!!
Children may bring a couple that is already close even closer but it is not their responsibility to “keep marriages together.” At the risk of sounding a bit callous, if a child is the ONLY thing keeping your marriage together, then quite frankly, you badly need to evaluate your marriage and your life. It would be far wiser and more effective for people to sort out their issues rather than placing the responsibility of keeping their marriage together on a child. Placing such a great responsibility on a child is unethical and extremely unfair.
Children do not guarantee that a marriage will stay together. I’ve seen cases where a couple had child in hopes of “strengthening” their marriage and it ended in divorce because they had issues that badly needed addressing and the changes and stress of a child only exacerbated those underlying issues. I’ve also seen instances where the children were the only thing keeping a marriage together and as soon as the children went off to uni, one of the spouses left and filed for divorce.