For Girls only *please*

[Esix]

@InToXiCaTeD

** For Girls only please …

where is masaladaar stuff? ****

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@Jaanwar

How can you look at such a ‘warning’ and not want to enter the thread?

And then not finding anything that will make your cheeks warm and eyes watery disappointed

@NaMaan

Yea ladies please do what she just said . She knows everyyyyyyyyyy thing . Trust me

Ok Zobia what is your advice for guys . Should we talk to our parents too if we like someone . . . yaar mujhay tu itniiiiiiiiiii sharam ati ha . . . kasmay

and yea I AM in this thread

[prototype]

Re: For Girls only please

i discussed that with mom too !

[aahmed]

Re: For Girls only please

Another guy reporting for duty. Zobia, why keep men out of this? I think that that was silly of you.

[NaMaan]

@aahmed

Another guy reporting for duty. Zobia, why keep men out of this? I think that that was silly of you.

One post , says it all :p

[Decent_6Chora]

Re: For Girls only please

ok I am not replying as zobia said...just testing my keyboard ...aAA BBBB cccCC DDddd ....YYY zzzzZZZz

ok ..good ..all keys are working ..

[SamiaQ]

@Decent_6Chora

ok I am not replying as zobia said...just testing my keyboard ...aAA BBBB cccCC DDddd ....YYY zzzzZZZz

ok ..good ..all keys are working ..

Keyboard test karney ke liye aap ko yahi girls-only thread mili :p

[Decent_6Chora]

@SamiaQ

Keyboard test karney ke liye aap ko yahi girls-only thread mili :p

Banda bekaar thread main hee test karey gaa na :D

PS: Iam not replying to Zobia's post as she asked ... I am just replying to SamiaQ post ;) ... Samia you in Q league?

[Simply_Seema]

@zobia

i kindly request all the kind hearted gentlemen please dont bother to respond to this thread.

so girls, how many of you discuss your marriages issues with your parents.

especially how many of you tell em that you want to get married, so they find you a nice guy? seriously girls talk to em, instead of holding your desires for lifetime.

if you like someone, talk to em and tell em. if they think he is not good for you enough then discuss with em. if you cant convince them, at least make them to convince you. they are your parents and they will understand the situation.

but foremost, dont neglect your education.

I do n mostly it’s just one word
NO!!!

[Khumar]

i do and did. i told her in the very beginning what i didn’t want and what i wanted in a spouse, and she told me what she herself is looking in a potential mate for me. i mean why not?

@aahmed

Another guy reporting for duty. Zobia, why keep men out of this? I think that that was silly of you.

men got cooties, that’s why.

[Jaanwar]

@aahmed

Another guy reporting for duty. Zobia, why keep men out of this? I think that that was silly of you.

hold

cough

Fit for duty :k:

[yanzala]

i haven't really met someone yet.......but i am sure once even if i do meet someone who i would be interested in getting married to, i don't think i will be able to talk to my parents about it.

[Niksik]

@zobia

i kindly request all the kind hearted gentlemen please dont bother to respond to this thread.

so girls, how many of you discuss your marriages issues with your parents.

especially how many of you tell em that you want to get married, so they find you a nice guy? seriously girls talk to em, instead of holding your desires for lifetime.

if you like someone, talk to em and tell em. if they think he is not good for you enough then discuss with em. if you cant convince them, at least make them to convince you. they are your parents and they will understand the situation.

but foremost, dont neglect your education.

I never do. I think they will give me a biased perspective and keep negative feelings for my husband in their heart that may never go away.

[_H_NK]

Re: For Girls only please

im not anywhere near of getting married yet, but when i think about it i always wonder, how is a conversation brought up? Do mom’s talk to their daughters seperately when they are in the age of marriage and asks Questions about what they want or like etc.
I wouldnt talk to dad, i mean its embarrasing to talk to them about marriage! But mom… i dont know, maybe …

[lipstick]

Re: For Girls only please

i've had a chat about this with mum. basically all she said to me was that her and dad are happy for me to make my own choice and find my own marriage partner and then she just laid out some criteria for me to follow lol, which i also agree with. just things like he should be educated to degree level, have a good job, obviously muslim and preferably punjabi/pakistani.... little does she know i've already found the perfect guy lol! im gonna tell her next yr inshallah and i'll probably feel kind of shy telling her about him but i know i can be open and honest about it since we have already had discussions. i feel very fortunate and happy that i have such an open relationship with mum otherwise i dont know how i would approach this whole thing.

[SamiaQ]

Re: For Girls only please

^
Cool parents

[Khumar]

@Niksik

I never do. I think they will give me a biased perspective and keep negative feelings for my husband in their heart that may never go away.

:hmmmm:

@*HNK*

im not anywhere near of getting married yet, but when i think about it i always wonder, how is a conversation brought up? Do mom’s talk to their daughters seperately when they are in the age of marriage and asks Questions about what they want or like etc.
I wouldnt talk to dad, i mean its embarrasing to talk to them about marriage! But mom… i dont know, maybe …

i can’t talk to my dad about this stuff. he doesn’t even like the fact that i talk to guys just as class fellows or whatever but as for girls, once you get to that age, your mom will tell you so i’m rishta hunting. that’s the time for you to lay down what you want. how tall, wide and rich

[zobia]

@clothesmad

I told my mum, it was a very frank conversation, just said i had met somebody who is interested in marraige and would like to talk to you personally, told her a few small details about him.

She then told my dad, and they met him togther. It really was’nt difficult at all.

@Lafanter

what makes u think that parents are not aware of your desires. I bet parents get more eager to to see their children getting married. They have been there and they know how it feels. They just dont talk about it infront of you.

its not about desires, it about what is your daughters approach in life? there is a define line between compromising, and adjustment. if the girl is compromising then it means she is aware of the sad state of her life and she is in pain. whereas adjustment is what ever the state of situation is you gotta adopt it.

so its good parents discuss it with their daughters that in what things she needs to adopt and what things she can adapts, keeping in mind her approach in life

@Stardust09

My parents are quite strict when it comes to meeting guys/pasand ki shaadi. So when I finally met the right guy, and he proposed, I was so scared to tell my parents. But I approached my mum and told her everything straight. At first she was quiet, slightly annoyed but after alot of persuasion and her speaking to my dad, she agreed to speak to his mum on the phone. She liked his mum alot and the rest is history as they say!

The important thing is to never disrespect your parents by doing things behind their back. When my fiance proposed to me, I waited two months and then told my parents. I did nothing un-Islamic and people should not be bound by cultural worries of ‘oh, pura khandaan kya sochaye ga?’. Forget everyone else. The only two people who you really need to worry about are your parents. baas.

and now, i am InshAllah getting married in July

you took a risk of not involving your parents on the very first step. it is delightful that it worked out, but its a risk.

btw, it shows that your parents do trust your choices in life, not in just this scenario but also in other things.

@mama_ki_dua

I don’t need to talk to them they talk to larkay ke parents without me knowing. My mom updates me on everything so I don’t have a problem with that.

:k:

[Milly]

Re: For Girls only please

Just elope. I hear Gretna Green is good!

In fact, my daddi told me to elope...anything to get rid of me! :(

[zobia]

@Aisha Dubaiwali

I am very close to my mom. Was just talking to her about certain issues in the car in the morning.

:k:

@Zara

Yea, im close to mum too… I can literally talk to her about anything. but with dad its bit different.

:k:

@Chicken_Biryani

I am not very close to my parents , mainly coz i have lived away from home majority of my life , however for all the big decisions , I usually subtly mention it to them. They listen and usually trust my judgement.

you know with parents , its normal to feel shy about certain things , but most parents do take notice of what kids say and want… even a subtle mention of our wants and wishes is good enough to give them an idea …

yeah, it is always good to discuss issues with your parents.

@prototype

i discussed that with mom too !

not just this, but its good to discuss everything, but dont go blind in everything.

@Simply_Seema

I do n mostly it’s just one word
NO!!!

why do they say no?

@Khumar

i do and did. i told her in the very beginning what i didn’t want and what i wanted in a spouse, and she told me what she herself is looking in a potential mate for me. i mean why not?

:k: it shows she also understands you.

[Rainbow09]

@zobia

i kindly request all the kind hearted gentlemen please dont bother to respond to this thread.

so girls, how many of you discuss your marriages issues with your parents.

especially how many of you tell em that you want to get married, so they find you a nice guy? seriously girls talk to em, instead of holding your desires for lifetime.

if you like someone, talk to em and tell em. if they think he is not good for you enough then discuss with em. if you cant convince them, at least make them to convince you. they are your parents and they will understand the situation.

but foremost, dont neglect your education.

Since I’m in the mood to respond to Life1 threads, I’ll reply even though I’m nowhere near the shaadi stage I’m not going to go to my mom and speak to her about anything: I’ll wait for her to come to me I want an arranged marriage i’A, so I guess I will have to speak to my mum & dad about everything quite openly and I’d want to aswell. How comfortable that’ll be, only time will tell

Definitely agree with the bold bit, no marriage plans until education is complete and career plans are atleast, secure.

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