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So everyone has different experiences…they are inspiring and motivating for me too..keep them coming lovely ladies 
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I grew up knowing I'd NEVER be a stay-at-home mom/housewife and how I'd want to be a working woman w/ an established career and all that jazz. But then I dont know what happened but I don't want to work. I'll eventually utilize my degree (literature and filmmaking) but I really like the idea of not working and just running the household and being there when the Mr. would come home from work. My friends would be so disappointed if they knew this. :D
That being said, he doesn't want me to work although he would be very supportive when I choose to. His own preferences is that I should stay not work and let him take care of all that stuff. The old me would be mortified at that idea but I've grown to really love that traditional idea.
whats the point of having degrees then ? just waste 16 years of life in university, waste the money which has been spent on you by your parents/guardian and then just sit home.
I am not saying that if you have some degrees then "you have to work" what i am trying to say that do something rather sitting at home. it could be volunteer, or something else (not professional job) but at least utilize the effort your parents put in you towards teh society
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whats the point of having degrees then ? just waste 16 years of life in university, waste the money which has been spent on you by your parents/guardian and then just sit home.
I am not saying that if you have some degrees then "you have to work" what i am trying to say that do something rather sitting at home. it could be volunteer, or something else (not professional job) but at least utilize the effort your parents put in you towards teh society
So bascially you are saying that housewives don't need proper education. No education, discipline needed to raise a kid?? Run a family?
Educate a man and you educate a person, educate a woman and you educate a whole nation... No where in this quote does it say that the woman has to work. Education just as important to raise kids, look after family, run a household as it is to work.
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Do I think my life is better than housewives?
Depends on the day.
If am stuck in traffic or needing a few more hours in the day, when my job is mundane - I want to be a housewife
But the days that I feel like I can conquer the world and have opportunities for learning and exploring the world that I would never have as a housewife, I love working.
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just waste 16 years of life in university
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education is never wasted.
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So bascially you are saying that housewives don't need proper education. No education, discipline needed to raise a kid?? Run a family?
Educate a man and you educate a person, educate a woman and you educate a whole nation... No where in this quote does it say that the woman has to work. Education just as important to raise kids, look after family, run a household as it is to work.
It is very arguable comment. I wouldn't put up my answer with "logics". let me put up comments with "real life stories"
Mother: Never went to school
Father: died when their eldest daughter was 7/8 years old
Life: Mother was only one responsible for her kids/education and how to raise 'em up
End result: Daughter (M.Sc Psychology, a working lady ), Elder Son (MBA from Qaid-e-Azam University, At very high post in UAE), Young son (not as bright as elders but doing well in life)
Mother: 5th class passed
Father: died when their eldest son was 14 years old
Life: Mother was only one responsible for her kids ...
End result: 2 sons are settled in US/Canada .. both of sisters are settled as well living a very good life.
Mother: 12 classes pass
Father: 10 classes pass
Life: Father was out of country when kids were growing. so it was only mother who took care of them
End result: one of the guy is Entrepreneur and has is own company. dealing with big brands of Europe/US in Motor bike garments. younger son, Masters and settled in Canada as well ..
Now, as per the "logic" that an educated woman would raise her kids well .. here comes some other "real life story"
Mother: M.A
Father: Army Officer (high rank)
End result: Elder son has no skills. He is married and its her wife who is taking care of house-hold and financial stuff. Younger son is 29 years old and still he has to decide what to do.
What i was trying to say that no doubt "education matters" .. but you can't say that if she is educated then its 100% sure that she would raise her kids good. There are always personal values and family values which matter.
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^And luck.
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So bascially you are saying that housewives don't need proper education. No education, discipline needed to raise a kid?? Run a family?
Educate a man and you educate a person, educate a woman and you educate a whole nation... No where in this quote does it say that the woman has to work. Education just as important to raise kids, look after family, run a household as it is to work.
Agree. People should value education. Most people don't end up using what they learned, but education does broaden a person's horizons.
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Agree. People should value education. Most people don't end up using what they learned, but education does broaden a person's horizons.
can i imply that then all the MIL related posts that we see in GS are by illiterate people? where they are arguing on very minor things which if we think from a sensible point of view would make you laugh?
I am being confused now that if education is going to broaden a person's horizon and sense then how come we hear lots of random stories about us nay ye kr diya aur us nay wo kr diya?
AGAIN I am not saying that education wouldn't help. All i am saying that education isn't the "ONLY" thing which should be considered. Or giving statements that education is the only thing that would make you sensible/broaden the horizon isn't true ..
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can i imply that then all the MIL related posts that we see in GS are by illiterate people? where they are arguing on very minor things which if we think from a sensible point of view would make you laugh?
I am being confused now that if education is going to broaden a person's horizon and sense then how come we hear lots of random stories about us nay ye kr diya aur us nay wo kr diya?
AGAIN I am not saying that education wouldn't help. All i am saying that education isn't the "ONLY" thing which should be considered. Or giving statements that education is the only thing that would make you sensible/broaden the horizon isn't true ..
Lol agreed, emotional maturity also plays a key role. Of course the atmosphere in the household also effects what the person gets from their education. Some simply go through the motions to get a degree, while others are encouraged from a young age to seek knowledge and actually try to better themselves.
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I agree with the robot guy............ most of the educated/well to do people....... are the children of uneducated parents............ needless to say........the results are apparent....
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I agree with the robot guy............ most of the educated/well to do people....... are the children of uneducated parents............ needless to say........the results are apparent....
So you are saying that I don't need education if I want my kids to do well.. Right???
Education is important, no matter what you plan on doing in the future. Plus lets not go off topic.. "Importance of education" isn't the topic here. My simple arguement is, if a girl get educated, and she decides to focus on just the children, no job, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.
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So you are saying that I don't need education if I want my kids to do well.. Right???
Education is important, no matter what you plan on doing in the future. Plus lets not go off topic.. "Importance of education" isn't the topic here. My simple arguement is, if a girl get educated, and she decides to focus on just the children, no job, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.
I agree 100%........ i was just saying.....that education doesn't necessarily translate into good parenting.........but i actually think women who are educated and stay at home......have done nothing wrong........except those who are in professions like health etc where they should work down the line........at least.
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AGAIN I am not saying that education wouldn't help. All i am saying that education isn't the "ONLY" thing which should be considered. Or giving statements that education is the only thing that would make you sensible/broaden the horizon isn't true ..
Agreed.....education is not the ONLY THING
Can we also agree that all things being equal we would want the person to have good family values as well as be educated?
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So you are saying that I don't need education if I want my kids to do well.. Right???
Education is important, no matter what you plan on doing in the future. Plus lets not go off topic.. "Importance of education" isn't the topic here. My simple arguement is, if a girl get educated, and she decides to focus on just the children, no job, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Just put up 4 exampls .. 3 with illiterate ppl and one educated. the result was quite opposite then what you are saying here.
my simple argument is .. if the point of getting education is to sit home then its better to spend that money whihch you have spent on education or other activities. let parents save them up for their old days. lets use this money to have a better living.
Lol agreed, emotional maturity also plays a key role. Of course the atmosphere in the household also effects what the person gets from their education. Some simply go through the motions to get a degree, while others are encouraged from a young age to seek knowledge and actually try to better themselves.
thats what i am trying to say .. :)
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^ or you can use your education when needed.
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currently i m a stay at home mom and I cant wait to go back to work once kids will be full time in school (inshallah this year)....agreed with everyone else, do whatever makes YOU happy and satisfied..
... ... at the end of the day you want to be a Happy mother in order to raise the happy family....
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Before I had my daughter, I think I would've really disliked being a housewife. I've met women who really enjoy and are really amazing at creating a home, and so they take more initiative with the chores too, and enjoy their lives as housewives and the creative freedom it gives them. I just don't have that same passion. I love to teach and I love to socialize, and I really loved working before my daughter was born.
Now that I have her, I prefer to be home with her, though I do feel sometimes overwhelmed by the housewife part of it because I have to train myself anew for this career. And unlike other careers, there aren't as many people involved in training and supervising you. So I guess that's why I don't really mind frequent visits from inlaws and my parents and such. It forces me to be more on top of things. I don't feel there is too much work; rather that I don't have good habits and routines set up to maximize productivity. But I'm improving.
(I have recently started working parttime in the evenings, btw. She is with hubby and/or her grandparents while I teach. It's only parttime, but it does require more organization and planning so that the house runs smoothly).
I do think it depends on where you passion and motivation lies. And how willing you are to challenge yourself to step out of your own comfort zone.
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This :k:
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whats the point of having degrees then ? just waste 16 years of life in university, waste the money which has been spent on you by your parents/guardian and then just sit home.
I am not saying that if you have some degrees then "you have to work" what i am trying to say that do something rather sitting at home. it could be volunteer, or something else (not professional job) but at least utilize the effort your parents put in you towards teh society
Like someone said, education is never wasted and with education comes better understanding of people, relationships and the world. You have to be wise or at least educated to raise a good set of kids. The examples of illiterate mothers you gave raising good kids probably has a lot to do with their circumstances but also luck.
Also, when I started my degree program I had all intentions of working and utilizing my degree. It's just my preferences changed, that doesn't mean I'm going to drop out. Also, you mention that the money used for my degree could help my parents in their retirement and old age. Whatever happened to student loans and paying for your own education? My parents saved money and they'll pay for the first few semesters and I'll have to take care of the rest. Education is worth going into debt for.
And I'm not going to be just sitting at home, taking care of the house is a responsibility too. Plus, there will always be side projects which can keep you busy. I'm not going to sit on the couch and sleep my life away. ;)