Is it still enforced?
If so, is it really working out the way it was supposed to?
Food is an integral part of all our celebrations and you take that out from the mix it makes the celebration lame…
P.S. There might have been a thread on this subject before but I am too lazy to search it … feel free to provide the link 
it was lifted almost 2 years ago when Musharraf came to power.
I think they still have one dish sort of thing going on. If you have wedding at a hall then it's one dish for wedding and two dishes for valima. If you do it at you own place then no restriction. I could be wrong.
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I think they still have one dish sort of thing going on. If you have wedding at a hall then it's one dish for wedding and two dishes for valima. If you do it at you own place then no restriction. I could be wrong.
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well, mushy is on the right track but it still sucks... one dish... might as well make it a pot-luck ...
and what is the logic behind one dish at the wedding and two at Valima ?
I think it's bad for small local businesses. Effects the economy. These guys try to correct every bad social norm by imposing more laws and decrees. Idiots.
i think its a good law.
poor people couldn't get married because loag kiya kahein ge if they didn't have a lavish wedding this law is gud to protect them from logoun ki baatein.
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i think its a good law.
poor people couldn't get married because loag kiya kahein ge if they didn't have a lavish wedding this law is gud to protect them from logoun ki baatein.
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what is next ? impose laws how much we can spend in liberty or fortress or boat basin or food street ???
The majority of poor living in the villages are unaffected by this law.. they still have to uphold the traditions... in cities the money saved in food went towards the "appetizers" almost the same cost.. so what is the point.... this law was designed to make fool of poor people to get votes… by the Sharif clan.... it should be kicked out just like they were kicked out...
ChahChoo, In my wedding we had food cathering, no there wasnt any dishes restriction, this was in Jan this year.
On Vilama the food was prepared at home, didnt have any restrictions.
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ChahChoo, In my wedding we had food cathering, no there wasnt any dishes restriction, this was in Jan this year.
On Vilama the food was prepared at home, didnt have any restrictions.
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Congrats...
I think this ban applies to Punjab mostly or at least used to.. I could be wrong though... which city did you get married in?
Valima food was made at home ??? I am assuming by professional cooks and not by your mother-in-law :) .. or did they put you to work on your first day as a Bahu ? :)
Thanks ChaChoo :)
I got ruskhat from Rawalpindi to Islamabad.
I think the ban does apply to some areas, as at first, we were undecided to where to have the wedding, at home or in some wedding banqet, we was looking into this Army one, they had this one-dish restriction, in the other hand, others were flexible, I think they didn't get checked so often (even if - then Riswaat Zindaabad ).
Well in the end, I got wedded from our own house.
LOL at Valima, I didn't touch a single thing there .. there were some professional cooks, that did the cooking all night long, I think that was the best chicken korma & curry and fried chicken I eat in my life, more better then ours catered one!
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and what is the logic behind one dish at the wedding and two at Valima ?
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so the bride's side does not get their arms twisted into throwing some lavish out-of-their-means bash, just because dulha ki amaan wants a shaandaar shaadi type of dealio is avoided.
my cousin got married last summer in khi. There were no restrictions whatsoever. One of our relatives runs a catering business so he was happy when the ban was lifted as it had been quite detrimental to his business.
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so the bride's side does not get their arms twisted into throwing some lavish out-of-their-means bash, just because dulha ki amaan wants a shaandaar shaadi type of dealio is avoided.
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so what is the qsoor of the poor dulha?
the eventual cost of the wedding comes out to be the same.... cost of food is probably the least compared to other costs that are incurred in an average weddings in Pakistan...
one dish? geez my mamoo had his wedding 3 years ago... and i can assure u there were no less than 20 dishes... it was outrageous!
no no, it was lifted long ago, i think in early 2002. and anyway, even when the ban was imposed no one cared, ppl had a lot of brilliant ways to get about to eat, drink and make merry. many wedding receptions had a board outside reading "aqiqa of ....".
and yeah, the ban was imposed all over the country.
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so what is the qsoor of the poor dulha? **
qusoor is either
1) being a materialistic punk who is forcing the bride's side to throw a lavish feast, or
2) being a spineless slappy who is letting his family force the bride's side to throw a lavish feast
*the eventual cost of the wedding comes out to be the same.... cost of food is probably the least compared to other costs that are incurred in an average weddings in Pakistan... *
well i suppose in these cases any money saved is a help to people. I would argue for severe restrictions on dowry etc as well.
how about a breakdown of shaadi expense and then we can see whether or not this is a real number here.
Whats the point in feeding the guests, ? IN my cousins weeding a lot of people came from our village, our company staff, Frinends, Relatives and people that our uncle needs for his political campaign.
Feeding these people is a waste of money, i once went to this very beautiful English weeding of my friends brother, i was his best man. At the end of the wedding they had a reception and the diet "Food" was Champage and Wine combined with some light refreshment and a huge 12 plinth wedding cake...
Now thats a cool set-up ? No?
:)
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friend's brother's best man? dude dinn have pals of his own or somfin? :)
The wedding reception after the vows are exchanged is not the same is the banquet they have afterwards.
Tons is spent on weddings here as well, there just seems to be a misconception that its not.
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1) being a materialistic punk who is forcing the bride's side to throw a lavish feast, or
2) being a spineless slappy who is letting his family force the bride's side to throw a lavish feast
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why generalize and impose a punishment on all ? Not everyone is materialistic punk or spineless slappy ... and not everyone forces the bride's family.. some brides' families want to do it... some do it simple and some lavish... of course it is wrong to force the bride or groom’s families to throw lavish parties on weddings or valimas... actually I will argue that it makes no sense to even throw a lavish party even if you do it with your own will and you can even afford it, wedding or not....
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well i suppose in these cases any money saved is a help to people. I would argue for severe restrictions on dowry etc as well.
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As I indicated earlier that majority of poverty is in villages (I think) and there this law did no good.. even where the law was imposed people paid rishwat to throw those lavish parties so they not only incurred the cost of food but also rishwat on top of it… that is what laws like these accomplish..…so where is the money saved?
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how about a breakdown of shaadi expense and then we can see whether or not this is a real number here.
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I don’t have enough knowledge to provide these numbers but I will say this that the cost of food is a fraction of the jewelry and bride’s dress which are not banned by this law…
My point is, it is a good thought and it should be just that… bring awareness to the people instead of ramming down laws like these down their throats…
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one dish? geez my mamoo had his wedding 3 years ago... and i can assure u there were no less than 20 dishes... it was outrageous!
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Yes tell me about it some people put all their zor into the food, we went to Karachi with our barat and my chachees place had so many dishes to select from it was as if there was no tomorrow, it was crazy. But I think the ban was up when we went and the wedding it was in a hall too and nobody checked up on us. Food is something to look forward to in a wedding the bans are ridiculous.