Flirty Men

Lifestyle Relationships
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My friend who’s a super decent girl, I mean in matters of decency she is my inspiration. She’s an amazing student, excellent balanced person, very religious and very pretty mashallah. Anyways, she has a pristine track record, she was never involved with anyone ever. She is a very NAYK and SAAF DIL person. Mashallah.

There is one guy in her office who is a MAJOR flirt. He flirts with all the girls. His habits include:

  • Asking girls personal questions and giving them faalToo kee compliments in a very personal manner on things like their looks, their clothes etc.

  • He’ll approach when you’re working on your computer, he’ll put his hands on your chair and bring his face like 5 inches away from you trying to look into your eyes :yukh: Get the HELL AWAY you CREEP. And you can’t really do much if you’re sitting on a chair in front of a computer desk except back away a few inches. When I went to that office he did that too and I just felt like huh what can I do I’m trapped. It was a terrible situation. YUCK.

  • Coming into the kitchen at lunchtime when only one girl is in the kitchen and striking up personal conversations blah blah.

I found my friend talking about him a lot and even though she didn’t admit it I had a feeling she was beginning to like him :eek: EWWW :yukh: ] so I decided to keep an eye on the dude. After observing him a couple times and observing his behavior with girls in their office it was obvious that he was a SLEAZEBAG who flirted with everyone. Maybe that was his nature, I think its wrong of him but I guess its a free world, but I would have hated it to see my friend get hurt over nothing.

So I told her clearly what I thought about him, told her not to talk to him, be stern with him and next time he talks sweet to NOT PAY ATTENTION and keep in mind that whatever he is saying he says it to all the girls so not making anything out of it.

My friend though is the type of girl who likes to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, be nice to everyone, never be rude even to her enemies etc etc. She just believes in all the goody goody ideals.

I think the guy got the hint that she was being more reserved and he started being even more flirty. He crossed all limits, this one time I went to their office and since my friend does pardah he’s asking me how does she look? I got SO MAD. Felt like slapping the idiot. I was just like, I actually said to him even though I’m hardly rude to people, I got so mad, I told him, What a strange question. I don’t know, and why do you want to know and why don’t you ask her yourself?

I mean come on, he’s seeing that my friend is such a girl, and he’s seeing that she is trying to resist his flirtiness, and he’s being even more flirty? What the HELL. I seriously just HATE that guy, I literally HATE him, each time he tries to act sweet I really feel like slapping him. I don’t get it. What the hell does he derive from being like this?

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You girls obviously dont know how to deal with a loser :stuck_out_tongue:
next time he comes and talks, just yell out ‘nahiiiiiiiiii’

or just tell him ‘look piss off :hoonh:’..

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^

well i know how to deal with losers, i knew from day one that he was a flirt, but my friend likes to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. anyways, its not really possible to yell out naheeeeeenn in an office MM :stuck_out_tongue: and he doesnt say anything rude so she cant really say piss off…u know? the max that’s possible is, IGNORE, BE RUDE…but yaar, this guy is like after my friend, haath dho k us ke peechay para hua hae, follows her around everywhere, and what bugs me is that he is just flirting with her … :mad:

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^ tell him she's promised to someone, trust me that line works ;)..
Or better still get a guy friend to come to the office and pretend it's her fiance, and give that flirt 'a look', he'd get the point n stay away.

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Let me get it straight. The girl you gave discription in first para is the same girl(your friend) who is main charactor here :confused:

And she started to like the guy( you feel). And she do pardah (niqaab I guess). The guy is super flirt ( your judgement).

Now my question:

Q. What is the reputation of this guy among colleages(other then you and your friend ) both negative and positive points ?

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Prex cooking lessons part 2 :

Req.

100 grams of laal chilli powder
250 ml plain water
a small parfume bottle
spoon
bowl

1) Put the 100 grams of chilli powder into the bowl and ad gently the water.

2) Mix it all up, but not to fast, because we want it to have a fluffy flavour.

3) put it all in the EMPTY parfume bottle,

VOILA, out recipe for today. :)
Use it with care, for :
-spicing up the food
-keeping annoying peeple at a distcance for ever :D

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have u not seen bend it like Bekham:)

LoL :rotfl"

what happens if the guy asks “cani come 2 ur Sahdi” :nahnah:

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Pra :smiley: :k:

CR his reputation is OK…i mean he isn’t a criminal or anything…he’s well educated, comes from a good family, what more is reputation? oh, i have heard he is a big CHOROO

MM yeah but the prob is i think my friend is falling for the guy :eek: its a hopeless situation and i feel like i wana stop her :S

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Irem, thats not a flirt, thats a pathetic perverted wierdo. Its got nothing to do with flirting. He should be reported for sure. To me, thats sexual harassment.

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awww that's too bad. If your friend likes him it's gonna be pretty near impossible to convince her he is just flirting with her and is no good.

A friend of mine really liked a guy that was so wrong for her. I'd never actually met the guy but just from what she was telling me it was obvious he was a major jerk and someone she should stay away from. She was so blind she was making excuses for his questionable behavior and kept giving him the benefit of the doubt.

Even worse if this girl does pardah... Wait he's after a girl in a niqaab ? ! She probabily never had anyone 'take interest' in her before. Chances are this is a new experience for her and she just likes the attention and his being a jerk does not matter.

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Psychological Analysis

I think this situation has more to do with your feelings of losing your friend to this guy. These kind of feelings are normal. You think very 'highly' of this friend of yours and could never have imagined she would respond to a guy's advances in a positive manner. She has crushed the pedestal you had her standing on. You are disappointed. You have resorted to blaming the guy. Have you for a second thought that may be she really likes the guy with all of his faults?. May be she likes bold, chaloo guys?.

I think you need to take a step back from these two individuals and let them sort it out. Your telling the friend that she is making a mistake is not very prudent thinking. May be she knows what she is getting into and may be the guy will straighten up and give up his flirting after he gets her.

In any case, it is not your place to stop or encourage your friend based on your one-sided opinion of the guy. May be she is looking at it from a different angle.

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lol funguy I dont think so. She doesnt want to see a good girl wasting her time with a wierdo. Nothing wrong with that.

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funguy - yes u r right maybe its not my place…hmmm…but still its difficult to see her walk in the path of self destruction…
and no, the first paragraph of ur analysis is not true :smack: she didnt fall off from any pedestal or maybe she did. hmmm. sochna paray ga…
the reason i hate him is coz he comes so disgustingly close :smack:

waqas72 - hmmm, nai there have been guys who took interest in her but she never reciprocated…even now she hasnt, i mean to him she’s still cold, but only i sensed this thing…

cat - there has been a recent change in the behavior of this dude, he has started praying namaz in the office…now this is a striking development…

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lol lets see how long he keeps that up for.

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irem: this is not a situation that one comes across everyday. This is decidely not flirting. While i will not exactly call that harrassment, i will stop just short of that.

The guy is an attention-seeker (and vice versa)...who doesn't like others giving him/her attention, well i for one like it. As far as your friend falling for him is concerned, what you can do (and perhaps already are doing) is let her know of how 'you' feel he acts and behaves with other females in the office. Ask her to take an independent view of things and observe his behaviour. If she gets to the same natural conclusion, that's fine; however, if she doesn't, well you can't really make the horse drink the water, now can you? :)

Be a guardian angel, advise her, admonish her, if need be; however, in the final analysis, she herself will tread her path.

mukhlis,

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:k: an excellent take on the situation

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compliments r fine in my opinion but the rest of the stuff is abit disturbing

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by cat-woman: *
Irem, thats not a flirt, thats a pathetic perverted wierdo. Its got nothing to do with flirting. He should be reported for sure. To me, thats sexual harassment.
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Yup ... this can be considered sexual harrassment. Complain to your seniors ASAP and record all incidences that have happened ... whenever possible, make sure there are witnesses around whenever he is present.

Also, if you can complain about someone drinking in your office ... then surely, you can complain about this guy harrassing you girls. :p

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Re: Flirty Men

[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by irem: *
My friend who's a super decent girl, I mean in matters of decency she is my inspiration. She's an amazing student, excellent balanced person, very religious and very pretty mashallah. Anyways, she has a pristine track record, she was never involved with anyone ever. She is a very NAYK and SAAF DIL person. Mashallah.

[/QUOTE]

Are you saying girls who have been involved with guys in the past don’t have a good record? If a guy had written that statement, all girls would have called him a chauvinistic pig. Pristine record ..my arse!

As for your friend, I don’t know how girls deal with stalker and leechars kinda guys. May be she is enjoying it or else she would have complained. Saaf dil and taking a stand for yourself are two different things.

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Irem.. how do you end up with such people around you… I mean, they are all so… black or white… no shades of gray. :confused:

Either they are totally pristine, or totally screwed up. Gotta tell you.. most people in real world are somewhere in the middle. Yours must be an exceptional environment.

Anyway, its difficult to make head to tail of this. Its just too one-dimensional. All the best.