I know that flirting was initially to woo or court someone they inteded to marry but now seems to be acceptable as a friendly “chat”.
What is flirting? Does smiling / sharing a joke with someone of the opposite gender constitute flirtatious behaviour? How about if you’re married - would that be called mental infidelity? How acceptable is it?
Is there truly a difference between a “friendly flirt” and one with sexual connotations?
I think, generally speaking, men find it much harder to draw the distinction between a friendly smile and a “come hither” gesture (or what they think to be, anyway), so are women “responsible” for the flirting?
I work in an environment where supposedly friendly remarks are thrown around the room without any restraint, and I find them to be very disrespectful and utterly demeaning, even if its not directed at myself (I don’t tend to get too close to boisterous male co - workers - I like my “space”).
How do other people feel about this?
~@~Kul de Khair Mangdi~@~
Freedom Without Responsibility is Disastrous
[This message has been edited by Khairun Nisa (edited December 12, 2001).]
… i hate ppl who flirt … have no respect for them … especially when gals lure guys with “bitchy” attitude… BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY WHEN MALES ARE DISRECPECTFUL TO FEMALES… Girls have to be respected… and flirting or whatever deception is used to play with their emotions is extremely cruel and devilish
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i'd say flirting is immoral.... and bad
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Hmmm I woldn't categorically file it under 'immoral'!
There is a fine line between seduction and flirting.. people who can tread these lines without losing perspective may actually find flirting quite enjoyable and healthy, even if married.
However it's a slippery slope the moment it starts taking sexual connotations.
Flirting is an art, not everyone handles or enjoys it the same.
It's not always clear what is flirting and what isn't. I think in part it depends upon who is on the giving end and who is on the receiving end. It's an art, I agree, and it's another very worthwhile art to allow it to go in one ear and out the other. In this situation as in others, a sense of humor can save the day. I was very upset about a similar situation once, but realised that
1) I had to set clear and clearly understood boundaries and 2) I shouldn't avoid situations because I was afraid - I should learn how to respond suitably - make things into a joke and not let them get to me. Nothing frustrates a flirter more than to know he or she isn't being taken seriously!
Oh and the last defense - have a lot to do (yes really) always. That keeps you occupied and pests away.
It really depends on your environment and people you are interacting with.
I agree with khairun nisa about the space factor....Some girls are uptight and some are not....guess who have more fun!
The rule is not to flirt with girls who don't appreciate it....Move on!
ciao
BoSS
Pristine, I know u ain't a mod no more yo! but don't you think its time for lathi charge in corner room?
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PAkistaniAbroad.... ART MY BUTT.....
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WHOA!!.. relax that sphincter soldier!
Take deep breaths, try and strike up pleasant conversations with the female guppies, extend some kind and appreciative remarks.. and it'll all come to you.
I personally get frustrated when my flirtations ARE taken seriously.
It’s embarrassing to retract statement after statement exlaining how they were all meant to be in good ‘fun’ and ‘friendship’ rather than in a ‘hitting-on-you’ or ‘I-have-a-crush-on-you’ way.
However, flirtations should definitely be construed as a genuine form of flattery.. .. maybe because it’s a little awkward for guys to imitate the girls they like
I bet ure such a tease in real life!! MA KINDA GURRL.!! by the way i got dreads, and somehow I like it better if da ladies don’t touch em too much… but thats me
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Originally posted by Sarah Splendor:
*It is a little immoral because it's forbidden but when guys try to look down your shirt or up your skirt, I'd say that's when it gets to be bad. *
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sarah i think u know this but 90% of the guys who si next to a girl sit there just to look down her shirt....
and i have seen girls open their top buttons or wear loose shirts so that FLIRT wud get more out of his time with her....
i hate this flirting business....
but i do have many friends who r girls....
i dont sit with them and we dont brush each other's hair....
and i think that is IMMORAL too....
so flirting - too BAAAAAAAD i think....
Makes the day go quicker in an office environment…but since changing location the environment I work in is dominated by men…it should be noted at this juncture that as a male flirting in this setting can seriously shorten your day(s) and flirting should be excercised with extreme caution
Flirtation is not only immoral, i have had heard its haraam too. But i am not too very sure about it since i am not keeping up with all the recent fatwas. But one thing i am positive about is that "saccha pyaar" is not haraam at all so why not go for saccha pyaar instead of flirtatation--even if its for few moments, an hour, a day(or just a night) a week, a month or blah blah blah--...huh?
I am not a flirty and i don't like flirties. I always do saccha pyaar.....sirf aur sirf saccha pyaar....
Naik*premi*Larki
ps>> and i like that saang, "aao na pyaar karein, aaaoooo, aao na"....aa mur vi