Re: Flirting with colleagues Helps keeps Marriage Alive!
girls, I want to keep my marriage alive coz I love my wife too much, anyone interested in helping me out? 
But then, no-one is advocating that the "ethical codes and rules" of the workplaces be violated. The topic was about people wanting to flirt, not to get fired or sued or create a hostile work environment. From what I understand, most workplaces do have procedures and protocols in place to address violations of said "ethical codes and rules"; read the manual, then proceed. If your co-worker/s doesn't/don't like it, then it's no longer flirting, it's harassment and you should have the common sense to stop yourself before you no longer have a say in the matter.
I am being sincere here.
By flirting at work you give other person authority and freedom to report you if things go south. You will never know when this person will start not liking since it will be up to that person to decide....
.....do you want that person to control the fate of your job?
This common sense argument may not work when sh!t hits the fan!
Many people (mostly men) get in to trouble this way. Especially if you have enemies at work.
One has to be cautious unless one does not care about the job or has a job of flipping burger.
Clean joking is by all means good however at work place.
Good safeguard advice: **Once you start seeing someone making flirtatious remarks at you at work, always talk about your SO or children to **deter that person.
Whatever floats your boat in the end. :)
woah.. hold on there miss sipahi..why are u taking flirting all the way to affairs..?..u need to chill out ur highness..go sedate urself..
I am completely chilled out Your Ungreatness. You might need a double dose of reality but thats your problem. Not mine.
The bottom line is...every single affair out there starts out with flirting...so is flirting harmless?
No. People who believe so are delusional and also looking for attention they dont get otherwise.
I am being sincere here.
By flirting at work you give other person authority and freedom to report you if things go south. You will never know when this person will start not liking since it will be up to that person to decide....
.....do you want that person to control the fate of your job?
This common sense argument may not work when sh!t hits the fan!
Many people (mostly men) get in to trouble this way. Especially if you have enemies at work.
One has to be cautious unless one does not care about the job or has a job of flipping burger.
Clean joking is by all means good however at work place.
Good safeguard advice: **Once you start seeing someone making flirtatious remarks at you at work, always talk about your SO or children to **deter that person.
Whatever floats your boat in the end. :)
As was I; what's your point? Look, I'm sorry if you operate in such a hostile work environment that you have to consider all of these outlandish scenarios (to quote
Sara516: "why would a woman willingly engage in this flirting shirting stuff or have an affair wtih a coworker and then cry sexual harrassment when things go bad? shows alot about her own chaaracter doesnt it?") but if that's the kind of atmosphere at your workplace, then it does go without saying to avoid flirting altogether. No one here is putting a gun to your head demanding that your flirt or even advocating that you do so at the workplace. Those of us that operate in a relatively friendly work environment with a somewhat more relaxed atmosphere simply don't share those views.
"Once you start seeing someone making flirtatious remarks at you at work, always talk about your SO or children to deter that person."
It also helps to mention that your SO is the jealous type and might stop by work to visit you, from time to time (but don't worry: SO is now seeking counseling for his/her anger issues, so it's cool). ;-)
um desis don't know how to flirt
they're just awkward
Judging by some of the responses on this thread, I'm inclined to agree with you.
um desis don't know how to flirt
they're just awkward
you seem like cross national flirter or "flirt-ers without borders" (inspired by doctors without borders) :)
Doesnt make sense. Affairs dont start right off the bat do they? It always starts with flirting and progresses from there. Anyone that actually flirts in the workplace knows exactly what the difference is between friendly banter and flirting. Its one thing to joke around but another entirely to engage someone flirtatiously.
Given that you equate flirtation with infidelity, it will likely never will. Give it a rest.
Considering flirting harmless is in my opinion...ridiculous. ** Do you flirt with people you find unattractive?**
Yes, I do if I'm on friendly terms with them. What have looks got to do with it?
No, because you dont want to give them the wrong idea. You flirt with people you find attractive and would enjoy attention from.
Sorry, I didn't realize you're standing there every time I flirt, noting who I "find attractive" and who I "enjoy attention from". Next time, don't be so shy!
Assuming peoples' feelings are in check all the time is assuming too much.
You're right. Assuming that because the article that was referenced was about 'flirting with coworkers' and not 'having affairs at the office', the assumption that “peoples' feelings are in check” (at least where the article is concerned) is one assumption too many. I apologize, and the article apologizes for good measure. Friends again?
Re: Flirting with colleagues Helps keeps Marriage Alive!
I already said in another thread that most of the posters here have no idea what flirting is.
Either that or we just have a very different definition in the UK.
I already said in another thread that most of the posters here have no idea what flirting is.
Either that or we just have a very different definition in the UK.
I get the feeling it'd earn them 40 lashes back home, so they're right to be cautious.
Re: Flirting with colleagues Helps keeps Marriage Alive!
I think the Americans have a different definition too.
There's a huge difference between cheeky banter and trying to get into someone's pants.
But yeh, (sensible) people are cautious to only indulge themselves when they know the other person is not going to get the wrong idea. You wouldn't go down that route with a pervy colleague. Hence it usually is with someone who is very much in the friend zone, where there is no mutual or even one-sided attraction.
(I think the article is bs though)
I totally would and wouldn't mind if my S.O. did as well; I think it's cute.
your husband flirting with another woman is CUTE? it's not just that you don't mind, but it's CUTE? now i've heard it all.
your husband flirting with another woman is CUTE? it's not just that you don't mind, but it's CUTE? now i've heard it all.
Is it coz i iz a flirt? ;-)
Re: Flirting with colleagues Helps keeps Marriage Alive!
good discussion!
wow some people are really good at kidding themselves that flirting can actually be good for a marriage and people who are agreeing are most likely the ones that are going to flip out the most when they find out their significant other is "flirting" with a co-worker........its all so easy for people to type responses but to actual mean what they write is a whole different aspect
wow some people are really good at kidding themselves that flirting can actually be good for a marriage and people who are agreeing are most likely the ones that are going to flip out the most when they find out their significant other is "flirting" with a co-worker........its all so easy for people to type responses but to actual mean what they write is a whole different aspect
Amazing! You've stepped so far into the 21st century that you're now able to see into the future! Our futures, to be exact! That said, it must be a burden to know exactly what will happen before it actually even happens. ;-)
^ i speak from experience 
Re: Flirting with colleagues Helps keeps Marriage Alive!
I don't think many of youse here get what 'fliting=cheeky banter' means.
It may have to do with attempting to flirt with fellow Browines. NO.
Re: Flirting with colleagues Helps keeps Marriage Alive!
aww come on milleh. don't you want to be cheeky with a desi uncle? it's very en vouge.