I found this very interesting article with some research and data.its for both men & women.What do you guys think?
**Lifestyle & Dating**
**Flirting 'Helps Keep Marriage Alive'**
Flirting with colleagues can help keep your marriage alive, a new survey has found.
Brits of both sexes frequently indulge in what they see as harmless flirting with members of the opposite sex in their office – outside of the knowledge of their spouse.
While married women are more likely to indulge in cheeky banter with men (72 per cent admit they do) men tend to go further and send sexy emails or even kiss another woman.
However, for most of the 2,416 people surveyed by Best magazine, innocent flirting – or “flir-delity” – is well within the realms of acceptability,
Humans are social primates and when we interact in a flirtatious way with a touch of the hand or a compliment it generates hormones which make us feel good.
“The signals do not have to be sexual and as long as you are happily married or in a good relationship it is harmless fun. We’re all constantly honing and perfecting our flirting skills and for women in particular these tend to improve with age,” said Peta Heskell, Best’s ‘flirtologist’.
But there are some differences: while eight out of ten Brits think paying a compliment to a member of the opposite sex is allowed, just half think sexy batter is ‘just a bit of fun’.
Almost ten per cent of men say you can kiss someone on the lips without getting into trouble – compared to just three per cent of women who would happily do it.
Source: Flirting ‘Helps Keep Marriage Alive’ | UKNetGuide
Re: Flirting with colleagues Helps keeps Marriage Alive!
Sometimes I wonder.......where are we going as a society?
Some people will try to justify anything and everything. First to themselves....then to the masses.
Sure, flirting is "innocent" and "not a big deal"...............cough...............when your other half isn't around. Try those flirtatious moves with a coworker in your spouse's presence.............and then we'll see how many people are "okay" with it. Hmm, I wouldn't be surprised if the sentiments in such a situation would contradict those in the article. The numbers of happy people might drop a bit.
If it's really not a big deal........then why only limit it to the workplace and when you're away from hubby n wifey. Why not do it in front of them!!!???
For some people, the flirting can get seriously carried away and can have serious consequences. It turns me off when I see married people flirting at work. Especially if they keep at it and know what they're doing. It's like they're willingly allowing themselves to be in this situation......when they also have the option of lowering their gaze and keeping away out of respect for their spouse and for their marriage. It could be flattering to an extent, but it's not something that I'd want to encourage. I know that human emotions and relationships are very complex and many things are easier said than done, but there's something cheap about it. If it pricks your conscience, then something's not right.
Sometimes I wonder.......where are we going as a society?
Some people will try to justify anything and everything. First to themselves....then to the masses.
Sure, flirting is "innocent" and "not a big deal"...............cough...............when your other half isn't around. Try those flirtatious moves with a coworker in your spouse's presence.............and then we'll see how many people are "okay" with it. Hmm, I wouldn't be surprised if the sentiments in such a situation would contradict those in the article. The numbers of happy people might drop a bit.
*If it's really not a big deal........then why only limit it to the workplace and when you're away from hubby n wifey. Why not do it in front of them!!!??? *
For some people, the flirting can get seriously carried away and can have serious consequences. It turns me off when I see married people flirting at work. Especially if they keep at it and know what they're doing. It's like they're willingly allowing themselves to be in this situation......when they also have the option of lowering their gaze and keeping away out of respect for their spouse and for their marriage. It could be flattering to an extent, but it's not something that I'd want to encourage. I know that human emotions and relationships are very complex and many things are easier said than done, but there's something cheap about it. If it pricks your conscience, then something's not right.
I totally would and wouldn't mind if my S.O. did as well; I think it's cute.
I totally would and wouldn't mind if my S.O. did as well; I think it's cute.
^ To each his own.
The danger in brushing off things at a "smaller" level is that they have the potential to get out of hand and become "bigger" and more serious. Your coworker, is not someone that you'll see once in a blue moon. You'll see them every week and may even have to work closely with him or her. You may at first think of your object of lust only at work......and then eventually find yourself thinking about them after work....when you're at home with your spouse. Also, it's not professional. In the event that the flirtatious sentiments are mutual......it's one thing. But if they're not.........it can make the coworker feel uncomfortable and create awkwardness, which isn't good for the work place.
For those individuals who are able to keep their feelings in check......more power to them.
Also, it's not professional. In the event that the flirtatious sentiments are mutual......it's one thing. But if they're not.........it can make the coworker feel uncomfortable and create awkwardness, which isn't good for the work place.
That "awkwardness" is usually the point at which sexual harassment lawsuits begin.
** You may at first think of your object of lust only at work**......and then eventually find yourself thinking about them after work....when you're at home with your spouse.
Ooookaaaaayyyy. I always thought of flirting as harmless, friendly banter, but apparently you have to be 'lusting' over someone to flirt with him or her. Dramatic, much?
In the event that the flirtatious sentiments are mutual......it's one thing. But if they're not.........it can make the coworker feel uncomfortable and create awkwardness, which isn't good for the work place.
Yes, we're assuming (because the article was about flirting at the workplace and not sexual harrassment) "that the flirtatious sentiments are [in fact] mutual".
For those individuals who are able to keep their feelings in check......more power to them.
Again, as the article is about 'flirtation at the workplace' and not 'affairs at the office', we're assuming that people "are able to keep their feelings in check".
flirt shmirt, just go for muttah and get it done and over with.
It's actually called "Nikah al Mut ́a/Mutah" and is a definite option if you're a) Muslim b) Shia and c) a ho fo' sho'. Otherwise, it's called "Nikah Misyar" or "Nika Urfi" (the Sunni Muslim equivalent).
sheesh. amateurs.
LOL, IKR?
That said, only complete amateurs bother with Mut ́a. ;-)