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Farudiyah, you are the guru. I will contact ya when I will be invited to any such party. You are absolutely correct that people who would want to talk to you or need info about you would find a way to strike a conversation, no matter what.
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It's when I read threads like this that I realised just how old fashioned I am ... I really view having a connection with someone before agreeing to marry them as simply being an optional extra!!! I wouldn't have a problem in marrying someone first and only establishing a connection afterwards.
I haven't tried flirting at desi parties since I turned (relatively) conservative at 18 back in the heady days of '99.
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Sadiyah
well swap looks by teh fact that you overheard soeone and he sounded very intelligent, or you saw someone being very gentle and kind to his nephew or little sister... point is whatever the reason you have to have a reason to be interested or attracted.
Minerva
Not a guru by any means, people over analyze, wory too much about who will say what and why, fear of rejection, and losing face, that they dont take the initiative. I landed a job because I was able to strike up a conversation with a partner of the consulting firm, 2 weeks later I had an offer. I landed clients for my company, because I sat next to some dude at the airport and struck up a conversation.
Maddie
but in your case someone is doign that assessment on your behalf, when you elders are checkign out prospective future mrs. maddies, they are looking at personality traits, family backgrtound, education, they are talkignt o people who know her, and meeting her to assess her on your behalf from a suitability perspective.
so while u may not be worryign about compatibility, others are.
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I do nothing. just ignore them. if they are doing that to me, imagine how many other girls they have also done it too? :halo:
and u dont even know if they’re married or not…so u may be flirting with someones husband (or wife)…and hence u may have a part to play in breaking up someones marriage (if it gets that far)…and if they have kids, u also play a part in ruining all them kids lives…
so before u do smile or give looks back, do think of the above …and dont be so selfish.
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Looking around at a shaadia/valima setting for a prospective spouse is not sad at all. Not everyone looks for the kid that stands out.
Personally, I can easily tell you which guys have some class and which ones do not. I can also point at least SOME of the guys who I know are total players and are not serious.
And frankly, I don't have the privelege of knowing too many desis from work, or from school, and certainly not from family connections.
In fact, the guy I'm talking about is through the one of total 3-5 connections my parents do have where I live. And my parents have been here in the States for a couple of decades now...
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Gee, you locked eyes with someone and we have a 9 page thread. Can't wait till you actually kiss somone the server would go down.
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ahi baistee
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Good God, she is not planning to marry!
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Just say" How u doin" ;)
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loosely (not loserly) translated: you got told. A verbal happy slap if you will.
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slaps hiccup back