Okay, I admit this is a bit inspired by some personal issues. 
What is your typical reaction when you are at some event, or dawat, or gathering of sorts when you see someone of the opposite sex staring back at you?
Do you flirt?
Do you lower your eyes?
Do you play a wait and see game - i.e. look away, then casually look back to see if they still look, then look away, then look back, and repeat the process until someone breaks into a smile?
Or other technique?
:halo:
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
lower your eyes...simple..thats what our religon says..i dont know how we can argue aganist that...
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
Uhm⌠at a party? I dunno never happened 
but it wud prolly be the third..
on the train, (where i get most âlooksâ itâs the second one 
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
I run. That is a dangerous situation. You got aunties and uncles and potential for you getting royally screwed.
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
I usually smile a bit, then wait and see. If we ran and avoided or lowered eyes, we would severly limit the possibilities for marriage. I doubt a smile means you want to have sex with someone, if they think that, they are definitely not the man for you.
PCG - do whatever makes you comfortable.
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
I usually lowermy eyes outta shyness or dread...
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
^ sometimes you sound so shareef that i am amazed.
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
^^ yeah, usually only in the threads where his lectures on the Islamic or the 'proper' way are addressed to women
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
canât help but add thisâŚu certainly havenât heard the âjo hansi wo phansiâ philosophy so some desi guys 
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
I usually just go up to her and say "Man that is one sexy looking women over there"(pointing to my wife). What do you think, should I ask her if she wants to go home with me tonight?
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
Simply make some excuse and leave the party for some time. When you will come back, that person will be doing the same with some one else.....
Enjoy!!
In case you are interested, pass a smile to that person, make some excuse and leave the party. You will definitely be followed by some one.
Enjoy!!
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
nah minah on serious note , guy is talking sense. Its just somewhat different from his usual lesbian approach so i was surprised.
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
I am perplexed at myself sometimes. I usually just sneak some peaks at the person when theyâre like on the other end of the hall. If they come within 10 feet of me, I walk away from them usually rehearsing my times tables to myself, so as not to even blush.
:bash:
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
speaking as guy...if a gal were to lock eyes with me at a party...my first reaction would be to continue with it n give her a "notty" look. that mostly gets a conversation going. i'd never look away or nythin like that..tht wud b too boooring, besides u still dont know if shes tryin 2 "flirt" or if its somethin else. if some casual flirting is the thing...i dont see anything wrong in tht...ur at a party to socialize, rite?...flirting is a kind of socializing too!
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
PCG you beating yourself for walking away or for sneaking peeks?
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
for walking away of course
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
PCG - all my illusions of you are shattered :(
You are such a strong woman who is so focused, driven, and intelligent. I can't understand why something as small as smiling and greeting someone is so hard for you. Try to think of it as a job. No one will think less of you because you would actually be nice to them. If anyone does, that is absolutely their problem. Why should that matter to you? Have some confidence in yourself and in other people.
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
^ Even teh strongest girls have hteir weak points. Maybe shes' beating herself up for not doing something as simple as a smile even though she's high aptitude in other aspects of life. Er, i dunno i feel like sounding smart.
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
Minah pakistani culture is very different and PCG being a guy i am turning into a mole for telling you this but dont smile, guys are no good. Be happy about walking away.
Re: Flirting: Party Etiquette
Ok cmon... any guy who thinks less of you if you smile at them, or tell them u like em isn't even worth the trouble. What's the big deal bout a smile?