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PCG,
You are hurting poor person by your attitude. Either encourage the person and deliver or simply be strict and pretend refusal.
Your attitude will make that person sick. Some day he might come to you as a forced-Cyborg.
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have i said that? they dont think less they think you are interested and if thats what you want sure. But if you are going to snub them if they approach you then why give them the wrong signal? Most of them “will” approach you.
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Minah Pa - I have to agree with Wise One on this.
I've met plenty of guys. And many of them are good people. Many of them are not. And I know precisely what my weakness is when it comes to choosing guys. I always choose ones that end up being a disappointment, because the first and usually the only thing I see is their intelligence.
If I'm at a party, and someone says to me that THIS guys here is in law school or in med school, or is doing his masters, or running a novel business idea, or doing anything remotely NON-SOUTH-FLORIDA-MALE-MEMON business (i.e inheriting the Subway or Gas Station that your father is running while failing your high school classes) - then I immediately give the guy a second look.
You have NO idea how much of a shortage there is in this area of EDUCATED men.
And I am a really strong believer in Education. Sure there are guys out there that are kind at heart with little education, but a guy who's done a lot with his life shows me a great deal of character in him.
Who knows, maybe I should be looking for the guys who are humble with little education?
But bottom line is, I meet these guys, and either they end up being really snobby (probably because they know they're a good catch), or they have huge egos and want women to sit at home rather than be successful and goal-oriented like them, or they're absolutely boring and don't seem to know much about experiencing life (i.e. the anti-social).
So what I do usually is to avoid even getting in that kind of a relationship is just to turn the other way.
Plus, as Wise One said, there are a lot of guys out there looking for cheap thrills. And how are u supposed to diffrentiate those from the respectable guys?
So, since when I see a guy, all this is running thru my head and making it hurt, I just run for it instead.
:(
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hmm if some guy is making eye contact with me i turn the other way and try to avoid contact with them hehe.. yuP no matter how good looking they are i'm too shy can't keep the eye contact thing goin.. & conversing with them lets not even go there
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Wise - PCG is in America, trust me, it is acceptable to be friendly here without everyone thinking you are going to sic your auties on them. And as Sara pointed out (ty Sara) any guy who would think less of you for showing good manners and a friendly face is not the kind of guy you would want anyway.
Umer - :love: you get better everyday
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well no not u specifically, but on here, plenty of guys have said it’s pathetic or slutty or other crap about a girl who likes a guy. it’s a very ghatiya and low class mentality to have, but hey whatever…
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Dammit what if I look and blush, and he sees the blush, and then he thinks I’m getting all serious and stuff?? I blush at even a mouse! 
:bash:
The walima is tomorrow, btw. He’ll be there. :o
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culture culture culture i dont know i guess it does depend on sort of people that pcg mingles with.
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You'll only find out if he is a good guy and not someone looking for cheap thrills if you talk to him, hena?
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^ Honestly, they do gossip a lot. Other than that, I really don't know much else dirt, because I dont gossip, and I go to social events myself like maybe 3-4 times a year - no joke.
My dad is very anti-social.
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Yeah, I’ll only know if I talk to him. Knowing my luck, I’ll be grinning like a cheshire cat with Kabaab stuck between my teeth.
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3, 4 times a year? that’s nothing dude, I go maybe once a year. I think last “event” i went to was my bro’s wedding 
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...........and having just read ur repy PCG
Maybe you should relax on the marriage issue then and just focus being friends with others. It seems as though this is a stressor you shouldn't add to what you have on your plate already. The right guy will come, believe me, but you have to give God the opportunity to make that happen, not close doors. But until then, maybe you should start evaluating men's character instead of their potential as a mate. It may make you see something you usually overlook by focusing totally on the "husband" potential.
I tend to be IQ smart. My husband is common sense smart. I test well, he communicates better. Everyone has their strengths, just find them in the people you meet rather than just focusing on one thing, that may help. Who knows, maybe the memon down the street with the 2 gas stations has a bit more to offer than just the "typical" characterization you give him.
But closing down and rebuffing people is not the way to do it.
btw - c'mon, I blush at the thoughht of rain, skin is pale and red hair, we blush at everything, just have to deal with it or laugh it off asking whether it is hot or not.
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:(
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so much stress about a guy that you dont know and who might not be worth your worry. i am curious is this thread actually helping you decide whether to smile or not or walk away or not?
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^ And here you are asking me a stressful question. Shoo.
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For some reason, desi guys at parties don't strike me as very good prospects. At least not the ones I have seen and had the displeasure of meeting. Most decent, educated guys are sequestered off into their own groups, never really encountered any young ones at parties or weddings.
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I meant what I said in another thread, seriously. You have some qualities that I see here that will make you the best partner a man could wish for. The person you chose will be a very lucky, happy man because of your absolute sense of committment and intelligence, both are worth more than anything else. I believe when you marry THE man, you would move mountains or die trying. You just have to trust yourself more and relax. When God gives you someone, you will know and it will be the right person.
I don’t want you sad, I wish to have you confident that when it happens, it will be worth it.
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if i ever get into reciting vows i might ask you to help me minah.
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I'm too shy to talk to strangers, if I'm introduced then I can start a conversation, else, I chat up the person sitting next to me, guy or girl don't matter, but I can't walk across the room and talk to someone who is staring at me.