First wife's permission

[Enigmatic]

Re: First wife’s permission

@lethal_kamikaze

Peace Enigmatic,

I read your comments at post #11 . You said ‘he needs to inform his wife’, but when Mirch asked for reference at post 15, so far you didn’t provided any references. What I would like to say when we talk about any issues related to our religion then we talk about it on the basis of references i.e. from Quran and/or Sunnah not i heard from such and such this or that.

Back to the point, Please refer to post # 12 (psyah’s comment) in this thread Click_Here.

I have heard it from quite a few number of people who are far more well versed in Quran and Sunnah than I am, that you should inform the first wife but I haven’t found the right hadith so far. I also remember a lecture given by Dr. Israr Ahmad where he said that a man should inform his wife at least but he does not need permission to remarry. The reasons he mentioned were:

1. Any marital contract needs to be made public and announced as is deemed preferable under the eyes of Allah. The husband and wife are a garment for each other (i.e each other’s confidante) so shouldn’t such big decision should be at least told to the first wife primarily as marriage is something encouraged to be announced with witnesses and celebrated as per Sunnah?

2. Allah says in Surah 4 Verse 3 And if you be apprehensive that you will not be able to do justice to the orphans, you may marry two or three or four women whom you choose. But if you apprehend that you might not be able to do justice to them, then marry only one wife, or marry those who have fallen in your possession.

Justice comes from honesty and truth. How is a man being just to his first wife if he’s marrying another woman, is going to provide for her financially, might even want to keep her in the same place or find a separate and suitable accomodation without informing his first wife of the entire arrangement before marriage? Thus the need to inform first wife before getting married.

But so far am unable to find a Hadith to prove that informing is essential. Hope that clears my stance or the fact that I was posting irrelevant statements without researching into it.

Am also sorry if any of my posts above seemed irrelevant. They might not have contained any quoted reference but it was a mere attempt to express my opinion on how I find polygamy to be justified and not discriminatory or cruel against women.