The Holy Prophet :saw: said: Let none of you fall suddenly upon his wife like a lower animal. Let him send the Envoy before cohabitation. Someone asked ‘What is the Envoy O Prophet?’ He said, ‘kisses and words of love.’
If you are married, it doesn’t mean that you start rutting like stoats on the first night…
Unless you know each other before, let the first night be a communion of soul and spirits…Then after your thoughts and souls have joined together, then rut like stoats…
The first night is the most important night in the life of any married couple…It is the night, the words of which, the moment of which, the sights and sounds of which will resonate the entire life of a couple’s relationship…
'Coz remember…Absence makes the heart grow fonder…In this case, don’t abstain…Just hold off until you guys immerse yourself in each other…