If you are nervous and not planning on things,you shouldn't start off helping her with the bobby pins and flanna flanna in the first place..and then TELL HER TO CHANGE! You just made the move already,poor girl will be doing what is supposed to be done apparently.
So change your plan in the 1st place,start discussing the whole shadi event and blah and how lucky you are and flannna flannnaa,a hug perhaps and start YAWNING!
She should get an idea!
BEST would be to Just discuss what's on your mind about the act..so that she sleeps a happy new bride and not think that some thing was wrong with her, she was a turn-off or what not.It could endup being a traumatic night for her instead:D
did this happen to you already ? If yes, there is no point discussing it. ho gya jo hona tha..
and if this is what you are think would happen to you, you can tell the love of your life NOW to not to do it because you are scared to be in such a situation. simple !!
Maybe lingerie was not intentionally revealing. Maybe her mother in law just skimped on buying a good quality night suit and instead bought her a cheap cotton ki patlee maxi
that girl would have some front to do that! no pun intended.
but seriously, i dont know many girls who despite marrying love of life will be so brave to wear revealing lingerie first night and be so in control. i think the whole little virgin, sharam ai haii act is more what the girls go for, wether they are sharmili or not.
It ain’t happening buddy so just relax. If there are any chances that one of you comes out of washroom in “reveling” dress, it would be you.
and if your “concern” remains, give me your cell number. I’ll keep on calling you after every 10 min on the night (and keep asking are we there yet? are we there yet? are were there yet?) and that will make it impossible
PS: oh and if she INDEED comes out in reveling dress, just go with the flow. you cant swim against the current for long!
CHILLAX PEOPLE. My friend and I were just having a conversation and we were arguing over whether there are guys out there who are nervous on the first night! He said it doesn't happen but I myself would feel very uncomfortable if I was expected to strip in front of a women I never even touched! I just wanted to know if other men feel the same. Of course no man would reject a woman/his wife in a revealing lingerie because WE'RE MEN! I guess I just worded my question incorrectly.*
And just fyi, there are guys who don't touch a woman until they are married.*
And to those immature idiots going all "omggggz so immature and dirty gawsh!!!" then you shouldn't have opened the thread in the first place. The topic of the thread suggests it's not appropriate for all ages so if you're here complaining DON'T OPEN THE THREAD!!*
I thought we were adults and could handle such topics.. typical desis closing down topics about sex because OMGZ TIZ SEW BAD!*
You get married to the love of your life. You really like her, but aren't really thinking of having it on the first night. You step inside your room, help her take off the dozen kilo ka dupatta on her head and remove all the bobby pins. You tell her to go change and you honestly don't expect THIS:
She comes out in a very revealing lingerie expecting some "action"
You're sitting there, thinking to yourself: WHAT THE FUDGE. This girl who you've never even touched, all of a sudden wants you to get naked and wants to start doing it? You weren't picturing this at all... in fact, your idea was to just sleep and perhaps do it later on in the week, after you'd gotten to know each other more and things weren't so awkward as the first night.
Given this scenario, would ^ those types of thoughts actually go through a guy's head (assuming that you didn't think it would happen and you were nervous and all)? Or would a guy's first reaction be... screw that, Imma go for it!
Also, are guys ACTUALLY just as nervous as a girl on the first night? So much to the point that they want to postpone it to later on in the week (or month) so he actually gets to know his wife before committing the "act"?
Seriously, if you haven't known her that much, then first know her and then marry her! Don't ruin her first night!!
CHILLAX PEOPLE. My friend and I were just having a conversation and we were arguing over whether there are guys out there who are nervous on the first night! He said it doesn't happen but I myself would feel very uncomfortable if I was expected to strip in front of a women I never even touched! I just wanted to know if other men feel the same. Of course no man would reject a woman/his wife in a revealing lingerie because WE'RE MEN! I guess I just worded my question incorrectly.*
And just fyi, there are guys who don't touch a woman until they are married.*
And to those immature idiots going all "omggggz so immature and dirty gawsh!!!" then you shouldn't have opened the thread in the first place. The topic of the thread suggests it's not appropriate for all ages so if you're here complaining DON'T OPEN THE THREAD!!*
I thought we were adults and could handle such topics.. typical desis closing down topics about sex because OMGZ TIZ SEW BAD!*
You are not making any sense in what you are saying. First you ask us to suppose, it's a love of your life, and you finding it 'EEK-ish' if she comes out in her lingerie, then you are saying, whether its OKAY for men to be nervous...two different things.
I think you came as 'wierd' to all the men out there who question WHY THE HELL would you not want to share that moment with the LOVE of your life. :D
CHILLAX PEOPLE. My friend and I were just having a conversation and we were arguing over whether there are guys out there who are nervous on the first night! He said it doesn't happen but I myself would feel very uncomfortable if I was expected to strip in front of a women I never even touched! I just wanted to know if other men feel the same. Of course no man would reject a woman/his wife in a revealing lingerie because WE'RE MEN! I guess I just worded my question incorrectly.*
And just fyi, there are guys who don't touch a woman until they are married.*
And to those immature idiots going all "omggggz so immature and dirty gawsh!!!" then you shouldn't have opened the thread in the first place. The topic of the thread suggests it's not appropriate for all ages so if you're here complaining DON'T OPEN THE THREAD!!*
I thought we were adults and could handle such topics.. typical desis closing down topics about sex because OMGZ TIZ SEW BAD!*
LOL!
I think you could have worded it differently but I don't think there was anything wrong with what you asked - it's all subjective.
I also find it so weird how people just ASSUME that newcomers are 'trolls' or are 'multi's' of other people? No one has that much spare time on there hands!! I've seen it a lot around this forum
Anyway hope you found some of the answers helpful!
