You get married to the love of your life. You really like her, but aren’t really thinking of having it on the first night. You step inside your room, help her take off the dozen kilo ka dupatta on her head and remove all the bobby pins. You tell her to go change and you honestly don’t expect THIS:
She comes out in a very revealing lingerie expecting some “action”
You’re sitting there, thinking to yourself: WHAT THE FUDGE. This girl who you’ve never even touched, all of a sudden wants you to get naked and wants to start doing it? You weren’t picturing this at all… in fact, your idea was to just sleep and perhaps do it later on in the week, after you’d gotten to know each other more and things weren’t so awkward as the first night.
Given this scenario, would ^ those types of thoughts actually go through a guy’s head (assuming that you didn’t think it would happen and you were nervous and all)? Or would a guy’s first reaction be… screw that, Imma go for it!
Also, are guys ACTUALLY just as nervous as a girl on the first night? So much to the point that they want to postpone it to later on in the week (or month) so he actually gets to know his wife before committing the “act”?
Yes, you get married to the love of your life... but that doesn't necessarily meant that you are completely comfortable with them to the point where you are ready to strip in front of them! What if you've never done it before? Wouldn't you want to delay it for a few days so you get to know your spouse better?
What's wrong with your wife.. a woman you are married to wanting to have sex. You may think you need some extra time, doesn't mean she is thinking the same. She may be ready for it. I wouldn't think of anything. If you are not ready just tell her but umm don't doubt her. She thinks she knows you well enough to have sex with you. People in arranged marriage setup have sex the first night right. Now what's wrong with this.
per ye to yug yug ki param para hai Big Boss ji. when people didn't find it awkward since centuries (knowing what marriage is and what are the components of this relationship), why bother so much?
and if ur not actually trolling , maybe u gave her the impression that's what you want? Could be mis-communication. Speak to her and be careful not to make her feel embarrassed etc, dont think it will help either party if they arent ready.
A relationship based only on sex is not good, it should be more than that. So, yes I agree with OP. If you two have nice conversation, she knows about your likes/dislikes, she knows your mood. But what is reason of your sex life, where you both can not share the sadness, happiness of life. I think both should take time and understand each other instead of performing act.
In reality, guy will definitely proceed and perform act because guys are visual by nature so it is hard to resist.
I don't think there's anything wrong with what the OP has asked, it could most definitely happen.
If this girl is the love of your life and vice versa she would be ready to have sex with you! Because hello, your the love of her life? Women are emotional beings and if you both love each other, then she would be ready to have sex with you. Its all in the mind for us women... The fact that you have not physically touched her before doesn't make any difference, do you know what I'm trying to say?
But I would have thought thats if you we're in this actual situation you wouldn't be thinking about whether your ready or not... Your wife's standing there, in revealing lingerie... :) your mind would go blank and you would want to sleep with her too! you have years and years to get to know each other properly.
Btw if you did ever say to her there and then that your not ready I think she would be deeply hurt and embarrassed! And wouldn't be 'ready' for quite some time!!!
