My dads friend has found a rishta for me to consider. We are living in europe.
The guy came from pakistan a few years bac for studies and now persueing masters. So the plan: he will be coming with my dads friend to our home soon, since his parents live in PK.
What should i ask him? im pretty sure i will be frozen kindof :s ! (i really am not liking this)
hooooow i need some help! i dont even know if i will get to talk to him in this first meeting or this is expected from me/us. Ive seen his picture, but he hasnt seen mine. He sent it, coz i guess he thinks it supposed to be that way.
So going to try and be calm and not so nervous! thats all ive got…
Talk about the what is important to you. Things you just can not tolerate and things you must have in a life partner. Discuss his and your routines, ambitions and ideals in life. Make sure to discuss religious views, family views, career etc. There will be many things that you will be not able to talk about so make sure you find a way to keep talking in future. Good luck.
GOODLUCK .. lol can't give any advice, since i have no experience with that yet .. lol ... anywayz just relax and just be yourself and be happy =) hehe
The first time my fiance's family came to my house, I did not stay at home because I was too much of a nervous train wreck.. lol
This wasnt really an issue because I already know his family because he is my best friend's brother. He saw me at her wedding and started liking me and sent the rishta. But the second time they came, I invited my friend (not his sister) over so I would have some moral support. My friend calmed me down so it went pretty well.
Hence, you might want to invite a close friend to help you with the process or ask your mom to stay close perhaps?
Read some books on how to conduct a behavior interview and arrange for a catwalk.
The questions would be along the lines:
When your siblings had a fight or argument how did you handle it ?
If your mother or sister bad mouth about me after we are married who’s side will you be on ?
If I cook something which you do not like how do you plan to deal with it ?
What are your opinion about me going out with my friends and not inviting you ?
You got the idea now run with it and go rent those books from your local library to complete the list.
You can get lot of question ideas from , mil , sil , bil , ill threads in life1 forum of this site.
the funny part is, it can be ok because he is coming alone with my dads friend… so no parents (his)! and still i cant figure out how to talk in front of the rest (so lame). alone its not a big deal…
oOalyshaOo16 : u funny girl!
party slims and Ajju: guys are right and i dont know!
white light: how did it go with u the meeting? did u talk to him with everyone around or only/also seperate?
I think with us it will be seperate and with evryone :s!
mizsrani: ur silly hehehehe for not being there.. haha.. but i have 2 sisters so i think theyll be around and theyre talkative so that wont be an issue… but the thing is then it will be even more obvious that im not talking :s:s:s!
What are your views on the possibility of peace between india/pakistan and palestine/israel
what is 2+2?
do you think i'm gorgeous (bat your eyelashes at this)
if i asked you for a diamond ring, minimum 4 carats, would you get it for me?
what do yuo think of this cake?
can god make a rock so big that he couldn't roll it?
how do you like the weather?
would you ever cheat on me?
do you want me to bring a lot of jahaiz?
are you going to give me my own house or do i have to live with your parents?
the last question i could actually ask but in this case its not applicable, coz they live in pk :P
4 carat? im not that big of a golddigger.... come on!
khumar ur very helpfull aswell :D
thank you thank you, i try hehe and the diamond question is a test! it’s to see how much he might potentially love and adore you. also it will tell you if he’s willing to do illegal and immoral stuff to grant you what you want or he won’t.
more important than asking questions is to observe how he carries himself, how comfortable he makes you fell talking to him, how confidence he is with his communcation and body language. You would like to feel the chemistry, if any and see if you feel connected on the topics that you discuss. I would find some of the questions that mirch suggested too straight forward and blunt esepecially on the first meetin, but its just me. Ask about his favorite joke to get a feel of his sense of humor. Ask about his favorite subject and why, to see if he's got some brains. Ask about his aim in life and future goals. Don't ask him if he will love his mother more than he will love you for cryin out loud. Make a list of your most favorite romantic movies and ask him if he likes them and why. Don't ask him what he would do if his sister behaves like a biaatch. lol
Sorry but most of the replies here are wayyyy off base here and I couldn't resist posting my thoughts.
The is too long a list. Hire or rent a teleprompter , because you cannot remember all the questions and you do not make it too formal by pulling out a cheat sheet out of your ear, nose or hat/dupatta.
hehe and the diamond question is a test! it’s to see how much he might potentially love and adore you. also it will tell you if he’s willing to do illegal and immoral stuff to grant you what you want or he won’t.
