first meeting, rishta

[Khumar]

Re: first meeting, rishta

@Mirch

What if she wants him to do whatever it takes to get her that big a diamond ring.

you know, if she’s into that stuff shrug

[fairywings85]

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@Asif2000

more important than asking questions is to observe how he carries himself, how comfortable he makes you fell talking to him, how confidence he is with his communcation and body language. You would like to feel the chemistry, if any and see if you feel connected on the topics that you discuss. .

I agreeeeeeeee....and its good you are meeting him...i hate it when people go on a picture..like seriously...he might be so hansome but not be able to tell you what 2 plus 2 is! on the other hand he might be 'all right looking' and the way he talks/holds himself makes him more attractive....so far ur doing well in not payin attention tooo much to the pic...

be yourself....cos if there is a 2nd meeting you dnt want to seem like u were 'fake' the first time!

i dont know if u have to talk to him one on one lool...but if you do....well i dont know cos hey lets face it its awkward...what do u say to the person u may ormay not spend the rest of your life with...

when's he coming over?

[el_topo]

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Don't forget to say hello.

[Mirch]

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@fairywings85

when's he coming over?

Why do you want to know that ? Are you planning to be there for moral support ? :D

[fairywings85]

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LOL Mirch...im just a nosy person lol.

[ajuba]

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Don't worry about creating a good impression, you've got a european passport that's all that counts.

[funky_nails]

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@ajuba

Don't worry about creating a good impression, you've got a european passport that's all that counts.

loser :P

Fairywings, i think he's coming this weekend. ur right abt being urself.
Im not concerned about making an 'good impression', because i dont believe you can get a very good or bad impression in 1 meeting with ur parents around. I dont think he would expect me to be all comfortable...
Im more concerned about his impression on me/us :P haha

The thing is, im too western for this kindof arrangement!aaaaaarggg.... i dont mind getting introduced, but i think it should be in a more relax way...
Like after 'screening' the family and the basic stuff, it would be so great to let the girl n guy contact and/or meet eachother.. instead of entire world around you watching every move...

my points:

1-when i talk to him alone, i will be fine ;)
2-wth am i supposed to say in front of everyone...

[fairywings85]

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personally in front of everyone...dont speak too much lol...bare minimum and smile and laugh lol

[Ghost14]

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loser :P

The thing is, im too western for this kindof arrangement!aaaaaarggg.... i dont mind getting introduced, but i think it should be in a more relax way... Like after 'screening' the family and the basic stuff, it would be so great to let the girl n guy contact and/or meet eachother.. instead of entire world around you watching every move...

my points:

1-when i talk to him alone, i will be fine ;) 2-wth am i supposed to say in front of everyone...

I agree with you. I wouldn't mind being introduced to a girl (man's gotta do what a man's gotta do) but afterward I would like to talk to her without people hovering. Almost like a...dare I say it...date?! But a very desi date lmao

As for what to say, I wouldn't worry about it. Granted I haven't ever done this kind of thing but in general guys are expected to be more open and aggressive (for lack of a better word). Besides, all the aunties and uncles will probably be talking non stop. If things get quiet and awkward just tell a painfully bad or highly inappropriate joke. Either way, you'll stand out :P

[mizsani]

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@funky_nails

haha thanks i was thinking the same hehe

the funny part is, it can be ok because he is coming alone with my dads friend… so no parents (his)! and still i cant figure out how to talk in front of the rest (so lame). alone its not a big deal…

oOalyshaOo16 : u funny girl!

party slims and Ajju: guys are right and i dont know!

white light: how did it go with u the meeting? did u talk to him with everyone around or only/also seperate?

I think with us it will be seperate and with evryone :s!

mizsrani: ur silly hehehehe for not being there.. haha.. but i have 2 sisters so i think theyll be around and theyre talkative so that wont be an issue… but the thing is then it will be even more obvious that im not talking :s:s:s!

PS im being dramatic, normally im never.

He wasnt coming with his family so I didnt c why I had to be there… lol yaaa it was silly but it saved me from being a nervous wreck hahaha.. but you will be ok.. I would definitely b comfortable if it was just him n not his family because then I will only have to worry about 1 person

[Shak]

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Ask him about football and tell him how you know about the offside rule. He'll respect you like there's no tommorow

[MonkeyMirch]

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Don't forget to say hello.

^ haha, true!!

or maybe take a valium before he comes over...then you won't be nervous. :)... jk

Just relax, don't make up stuff about yourself...and ask him w/e you feel is important. Most people here gave good advice.

[funky_nails]

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Ask him about football and tell him how you know about the offside rule. He'll respect you like there's no tommorow

hehe good one, but hwat is the rule. bata do :P

My mom doesnt want my sister to be there (married), because she doesnt think its necessary for the first time.

Im kindof pissed and so is my sis. Now im not sure if i should talk to my mom and ask her y she does not want it and tell her that i want her to be there aswell. My sis feels outcasted now and im not sure she even wants to be there.
im pretty sure if i ask her, she will tell me dont bother and shell act all normal, but meanwhile will not be pleased.

[funky_nails]

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now im more moody than nervous...

[fairywings85]

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hehe good one, but hwat is the rule. bata do :P

My mom doesnt want my sister to be there (married), because she doesnt think its necessary for the first time.

Im kindof pissed and so is my sis. Now im not sure if i should talk to my mom and ask her y she does not want it and tell her that i want her to be there aswell. My sis feels outcasted now and im not sure she even wants to be there. im pretty sure if i ask her, she will tell me dont bother and shell act all normal, but meanwhile will not be pleased.

you should ask her why she doesnt want your sis there? maybe....i duno long shot but she doesnt want the grooms side to get confused as to who the proposal is for...but then u say she is married so surely they would know?

[funky_nails]

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its solved for now :)

ill post something after the 'visit', if its interesting :P

bye ;)

[fairywings85]

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please dooooo :)

[heart_n_soul_1]

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Hey Funky nails, My sis is gonna go thru exaclty the same situation as u in just a few days from now, and is dreading it. Forget her even im not looking forward to it that much and Im her elder sister that has been thru it already before and I hated it even then. Its gonna be his parents, him, the guy who has introduced them to my dad and one of my uncles cus my parents are out of the country. I just feel its all sooo awkward to have to make small talk to everyone, while at the same time know that your every word and move is being scrutinised and judged. Its just awful and something I swear not to ever put my kids thru. I will keep you in my prayers Hun and Hope everything goes well for u. xxx

[funky_nails]

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^aww thanks babe!

[funky_nails]

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its tomorrow...

all of a sudden i dont feel nervous anymore... totally not. That feels weird... That is a good thing probably, but on the other hand i have the feeling that there wont be much point (for me) in the whole meeting..

The funny thing is, this all might be for nothing and end soon if the guy is not suitable.. all the drama for nothing!
secretrly i do hope he's nice though..