But do girls ‘value’ their first love more? And guys are eventually a lot more bleh about it?
By value I mean that their always remains a tiny space, deep in their hearts where they have hidden all the mix tapes, love letters, emails, hugs, kisses, photographs, memories etc, where as guys just get over it and are alot more non chalant about it?
I do understand that this is a very general question and each individual is different, but surely there is a majority and minority. My question is, which way do the scales tip? Girls or guys?
individuals never ever forget their 'first love'...i've created a grave of her memories deep down in my heart which i visit sometimes and shed a few tears.
I think its best to visit the grave and leave a few flowers every now and then, rather than stay there and remember what was and think about what could have been.
Not necessarily. Well of course there are ppl who don't forget anything. I think as new ppl become part of our lives, the ones in the past start getting blur. I honestly don't think the statement is true for women. Women generally get attached to the person who gives them more security, more love. I don't think they want to be associated with the past love if they have moved on, have kids and a family.
Hmm...Interesting topic, I expect some fierce debate.
I have no love experience but my fiance was in a six year relation, In very simple I am her second love.When she does something for me I feel it purposeless and fake, I just dont have that sentimental attachment.
I dont understand how can an individual repeat same words, can have same feelings for more than a person.
individuals never ever forget their 'first love'...i've created a grave of her memories deep down in my heart which i visit sometimes and shed a few tears.
I havent had a first love. There was one ongoing rishta for me, like the guy was studying so I was waiting...I think i got attached to him but it really didnt take me more than a week to get over it. There are no notes, no letters, no gifts, no texts I hoard onto.
individuals never ever forget their 'first love'...i've created a grave of her memories deep down in my heart which i visit sometimes and shed a few tears.
akaylay ho issiliye roo rahay ho... jab woh special one aye gii aur phir* tinko minko pinky *laye gii tou tab tumharay paas koi time nahi ho ga *matam shatam *ka
akaylay ho issiliye roo rahay ho... jab woh special one aye gii aur phir* tinko minko pinky ***laye gii **tou tab tumharay paas koi time nahi ho ga *matam shatam *ka
lol...to, kia maiN kisii aisii aunty se shaadii karuuNgaa jo jahez meN Tinku, Minku aur Pinki saath laayegii? hargiz nahiiN! maiN to aisii laauuNgaa jis ke kam se kam aadhe darjan to bachche hoN! :D
main nay yeh nahi kaha kay amma kay ghar say tinko minko laye gii.....
.... main nay kaha hai *aur phir *... means... :-)
nai ji, jab FREE meN dahejoo bachche mil jaayeN to Khud ko meHnat karne kii [paalne posne meN] kia zaroorat hai...pale palaaye bachche kia bure haiN? :D aajkal to log fully grown trees le aate haiN apne baGHeeche meN lagaane ke liye! :D
My first love was never mine so I let it free, let it go. It was not worth it. Someone can change the behavior overnight was a shocking experience. I had heard stories about it, read in the novels, saw in the PTV dramas but it never occurred to me that it actually happens in real life until I was shaken.
I was very young (not that I am buddha uncle now, I was very very young just a few years ago :halo: ) and it hit you when it happens the first time. You would not realize how much pain you would feel until you are gifted the pain.
I was all desperate at the event. I tried to talk her out but the response was a cold bloody silence. It was hard to concentrate on studies and work. I used to feel sudden pain even when riding a train or bus. The life, all of a sudden, felt just hollow. I kept on thinking why oh why? What have I done? I still have no clue what happened. But time heals. I learnt that some days are cherish-able in their own unique ways even if they had been hurtful at a point in time in life.
Now I know it was meant to be such. It was not my destiny. It was meant to happen for me so that I could meet the most important person of my life, my life. Yes my life as the world famously calls it wife. My first true and real love. The previous one was just an illusion.
It was one sided initially from the other side. I completed the second half. But it changed to one sided at the end from my side and eventually faded away.
thank you! 
