First hungout together

Lifestyle Relationships
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I’m going to the movies on my first hangout thing with a dude to go watch cars 2, and well me and this dude had been best friends like a year ago for 2 yrs…this year was just bad between us. He asked me to go to the movies, and I said yeah (we’re 17) and well..i don’t know how to act, and i want to be a little flirty, so what should i say? No touching of course..we’re Muslim. We obviously know each other well, so i know i should be myself and what not..but i know i will be nervous! so any flirtatious comments and little things would be nice to hear! and of course other suggestions! thanks! (i know i need to be myself, and he knows me pretty well and what not…idk how to flirt is the problem…i just need ideas…or how to be seductive…)

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Wait a minute, cars 2 is out! when? I am so watching it with my family

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Muslims dont get seductive before marriage either :p

Oopssssie! :D

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i still remember my first hangout..... ain't they gonna come back? hmm.. nope.

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well i know... but we're not religious......

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Well, I think it would be better to be on the safer side and ask him how does he feels when someone tries to test his self control (seduce and flirt with) him while he is in the process of exploring his sexual desires (just entered puberty). Does he likes to be teased till the end or wants to relieve himself when there is no social check on him and other external factors to stop him ? For how long can he fight with the beast inside him ? Is he stronger enough to keep fighting against the beast till the end, or will he give up at any stage....etc.

These are very important questions for you to be on the safer side

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Not religious Muslims = Signing a contract with Allah (swt) but not serious in following it. No Owner of any company would enjoy such a contract and we are talking of the Al-Mightiest of ALL, who has a right over every bit of us and whose help we need every breath of our life.

And if he also turned out to be a not religious Muslim when it comes to controlling ones desires due to fear of Allah (swt), then there are a lot of such cases we read daily in newspapers whose first hangout turned into an unfortunate nightmare...Then the life is not easy at all...

I might sound like a stupid fool to a lot of people who had pleasant experiences, Still I would say that no matter how convenient and comfortable such 'first' meetings look apparently, the possible consequences would help you decide if it is a risk worth taking or not. (Specially when we are talking of the youngsters trained by internet and cable TV lessons)

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laugh at his jokes even if its not funny. (some guys think they're the funniest guy ever but in reality they aren't)
look at him directly when talking. (shows that you're interested in what he's saying)
and over all just be casual if you push too hard guys tend to runaway.
Guys tend to know when a girl likes him so yah just try to act like yourself.

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Hey, you know what seduction means, right?

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I have been married to my beautiful wife for almost 11 years now and she is an absolute Joy. Before we got married, she once told me that she dated a guy for a couple of months. Nothing serious, just movies and all. Honestly, it still aches my heart to think of her with this other dude. So before you go out on your lill 'hungout', think about future consequences.

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Be yourself lady, you dont need to flirt. or fake anything

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You are too young to flirt and seduce....

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What benefit do you hope to achieve from this date?

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Non-religious Muslim?! You're either Muslim or you're not.

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kids ...

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Now we r talking :D

So..........now how to get flirty? I think it either comes naturally or not otherwise it wl look really fake and nothing puts off guys more than fakeness or so i hope! :D

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Are you serious or just trolling ?
If you are serious the serious advice is :
Tell your parents first that you are going to movies with a dude and ask them what you are supposed to do or not do on first date.
They might like to accompany you to make sure that both of you behave appropriately. You said you are Muslim and Muslims are not allowed to date. So to let you know that Muslims are allowed to date but there has to be a Chaperone to watch over them.

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so instead of giving advice to a girl not to go and 'seduce' a boy, you will actually encourage her, bravo!

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is this what it has come to now? parents also encouraging? they may even accompany their daugther on a date? i mean wtf? man i must have been sleeping for ages now.

day 271...
same daughter: mom im preg.
same mom: what??
same dad: WHATT??

faint faint

and who in the world said muslims are allowed to date??
this is bs man

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Dating in 'Islamic' terminology means when a girl and guy want to get married, they are allowed to talk and know each other for a brief period (not like months or years) under the supervision of chaperones. This means that some elder or any family member accompany them while they talk which will help them decide whether to proceed with the proposal or not. This usually applies more to the arranged setting when the girl and guy are introduced to each other by elders. Islam gives girl and guy a chance to meet each other and talk and then decide to marry each other or not.

Islam does not allow dating just for the purpose of fun without any plan of getting married. Also, this Islamic 'dating' should not continue for longer periods of time. I think, 2-3 meetings are enough to know whether you should proceed with the proposal or not.

Islam does not allow girl and guy friendship, let alone allowing them to go on dates. So the Islamic concept of dating applies more on the arranged setting. However, if a girl or guy start liking each other (since they already know each other because they are class fellows, or colleagues, or through any other means), they shoud immediately ask their parents to arrange their marriage with each other. In such a scenario, there is no need for dating (with or without chaperone) since they alreaady know each other and know they are compatible to get married. So if there is any liking, they should get married immediately rather than doing on dates.

I have just explained the Islamic concept of 'dating'. Nothing is directed towards the OP or anybody else.