Re: First he flirts and now all of a sudden ignores me.
I think you might need to define flirting as someone above said...unless it was super blunt, maybe he wasn't trying to flirt at all. Or maybe he realized that it was innapropriate and now feels awkward and has totally distanced himself from the situation.
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There is a guy at work, quite senior in the company. We have been flirting for a few weeks via text n emails. A week ago he was flirting out right in person and left no room for doubt he likes me. But all of a sudden he has disappeared on me.. Doesn't answer my emails or messages. What is it with the mused messages. I know he is still around as he communicates with other staff members. Is he just playing with me? Guys especially please help.. Why is he doing this.
You mean that guy is from GS, he has been flirting via PMs and all of a sudden he disappeared on you and doesnt respond to your pms.. you know hes still around as he communicates with other GS members on forum.. ooh.. just tell us the nick of that guppy.. we have special operation forces (mods) here... dont worry!! they will love to strangle him (um.. to death? not really).
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^ Probablly a R.A.W. (Really Annoying Worthless) person can do this.
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now that we have speculated about the character of man unknown to all of us, in all sorts of negative tones, and called him a douche-bag for daring to stop flirting with a sub-ordinate (oh the blasphemy of it all!), lets add another speculation to the mix, albeit a positive one, and say that may be ... just may be ... he realized his own folly of flirting with someone reporting to him, and realized the potential hazardous consequences of a stupid game, and was embarrassed in his heart, and decided to step back. you know, may be?
seems like some people on this forum would say anything to tow the populist lines, and get a pat on the back ...
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^ True, but you see, even though we don't know the other side of the picture, the intention here is usually to help the one who posts his problem here, which can better be done by assuming everything s/he said to be true and consoling/motivating that person to get on with life and learn (correct onself) after that experience. (instead of giving him a guilt trip for what is already done in the past). Yes, the guidelines for future steps should be realistically stated, so that it doesn't happen again.
If tomorrow her boss posts here the same problem from his perspective, we might search for perspectives/angels that is more helpful for him without making him feel ashamed. Ofcourse that doesn't mean we should deny the real culprit, but only to lift his/her moral (instead of making him/her feel more guilty) as usually one already knows his/her own mistake, after such incidents.
Just my understanding, could be totally wrong.
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Well, just for the sake of discussion, if a person suddenly wants to step back/ distance himself from any kind of relationship/game that he had initiated before and was part of (for a certain time), then s/he should be straightforward about his change of mind/intentions and should let the other person clearly know about it, instead of keeping the other person waiting/expecting/suffering.
He made two blunders, on related to private life and the second one related to office job. Instead of compensating for his mistake (of first commiting and then himself steping back) in the form of an appology, he is making his own life/job comfortable by keeping himself busy in his job and not thinking about that relationship, while the dailylife/work performance of his subordinate is becoming miserable because for his lack of attention not only towards her private life but also towards her office hours.
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Oh you girls.
So easily played, abused and used by a guy. In high school and college I learned that a lot of girls have really low self esteem, it's actually quite shocking. Even the very pretty ones think their so ugly/fat/ no one wants them/something is wrong with their appearance, and will easily give it up, just easily played
In fact there seems to be an inverse relationship in terms of how pretty they are and their self esteem, ie self esteem = 1/Hotness
Played and thrown away like a piece of trash. It's bad enough seeing it, but when I see it among our Muslim girls it's just plain depressing.
Guys get of on you chasing them, on making you desperate, it's sort of a game for them that boosts their egos.
Guys then sit around laughing their asses of about you, showing each other the desperate texts and voice mails you have left.,
Get some dignity and get some respect, any guy who wants to flirt with you like that , DOES NOT RESPECT YOU ONE BIT!!! I bet you anything he's doing that with 10 other girls.
I've hardly chased him so as to appear desperate.. I would never give anyone tht satisfaction. The only matters I've forwarded to him r work related only. My project is time his gent n unfortunately cannot b finished or move forward without him.
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Sorry ^ time hingent
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Usually in such time pass (for fun's sake) relationships, sincerity & committment is least expected from both sides, unless one is too innocent to know what flirting actually means. As such affairs (games) are just for the purpose of fun, both men and women try to utilize their own strengths and not let their weaknesses be exploited by the other person. Usually, the more experienced one wins. A woman's strength is that she is not as desperate (as a man is) in getting invoved into a relationship by merely getting influenced by looks, without having enough information about the other person. But once she gets involved, her weakness starts, i.e. she can't easily come out of it. Here the strength of men starts, the sick men then play with her emotions in order to see how desperate she has become without his attention, while she is already trapped.
Additionally, he is very senior (powerful) in the company that you work, so he has also utilized this strength of his, against which you can't do anything. Now that he has already exploited your weaknesses, better not to give him attention at all, if you want to punish him and move on with life. Just consider it as a learning experience that should motivate you to concentrate more and work harder. Prove your worth through your efforts (only that should do the talking in your office). Difficult, but you have to understand that such a low person isn't worth of your attention and time, but your work is.
Before this episode I thought he was a gentleman I now know he is just a jerk.. Middle aged prat. My only concern is my project tht I have given near to one dedicated year.
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i didnt get a chance to read all the replies here but from your first post with the very little info you've given about him shows that he's very similar to a couple guys i know, i've seen how they are and they wont change any time soon, they are the playa types who lead a woman on and as soon as they get that all consuming affection and attention from the woman that they are pursuing, they move on to the next woman.
the reason these desi guys do it is only for the game of it and the attention, not sure if your coworker is of the same breed of man but he might be that's why totally ignore him and flirt(without any leading on of the other person) with other men right in front of him.
or if he is of a different religious and cultural bg, it might have sunk in that he might need to change himself completely for any real relationship to exist between you two....not sure why he would completely ignore you though but alot of men are wimps like that they would rather not do the work of explaining why it wouldnt work out.
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Middle aged prat.
....that you were flirting with.
sooooo.....
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Are you not equally at fault for flirting back?
unless you were thinking of marrying him and living happily ever after?
Guy is a douche though. This is the oldest trick in the (asian guy's) book
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yes. but if any guys doing this after HS and maybe some college, he really needs to get a life.
agreed...and not even all of college...by the first year second year they should be done with their childish immature games
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I m available for flirt, gentleman’s flirt that is.
contact me.
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May be he was doing it for fun, when you responded he felt it may become more serious and backed off.
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uss ka dil bhar gia hay bibi :cobra: Jiss tarah maira dil Burger kha khar kar bhar jata hay bilkul uss he tarah So don’t think about it anymore 
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The moral of this story is move on....he was never serious...and your now wasting time which would never have come to anything!
Thank your luck that you got out.
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Maybe his wife or girlfriend is back in town and he is focusing on his real life now. Bosses tend to do that.
You need to ignore him and give him a dose of his own medicine.
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and don't think about winning him back tricks . ye sab filmo me hota hai. Ignore n move on...
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There is a guy at work, quite senior in the company. We have been flirting for a few weeks via text n emails. A week ago he was flirting out right in person and left no room for doubt he likes me. But all of a sudden he has disappeared on me.. Doesn't answer my emails or messages. What is it with the mused messages. I know he is still around as he communicates with other staff members. Is he just playing with me? Guys especially please help.. Why is he doing this.
I don't understand y flirt with me if u don't like me? And there r only few women in our company.. I haven't seen him behave tht way with any of them.
His wife has found about the msging going on between you 2.