Re: First he flirts and now all of a sudden ignores me.
Question to OP: I am not suggesting you did but is there anything beyond flirting that needs to be disclosed?
Re: First he flirts and now all of a sudden ignores me.
Question to OP: I am not suggesting you did but is there anything beyond flirting that needs to be disclosed?
No. Just flirting. He wanted me to know he liked me.. And as soon as I realised he did.. He is AWOL.
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Do you like him? You seem to be making a big deal out of a bit of fun/flirting.
Also is this the first guy to show interest in you? or he's first guy you liked?
Re: First he flirts and now all of a sudden ignores me.
Do you like him? You seem to be making a big deal out of a bit of fun/flirting.
Also is this the first guy to show interest in you? or he's first guy you liked?
I was attracted. But thts it. He is letting it affect work now.. This is a problem. It's him whose making too much from it..
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There is a guy at work, quite senior in the company. We have been flirting for a few weeks via text n emails. A week ago he was flirting out right in person and left no room for doubt he likes me. But all of a sudden he has disappeared on me.. Doesn't answer my emails or messages. What is it with the mused messages. I know he is still around as he communicates with other staff members. Is he just playing with me? Guys especially please help.. Why is he doing this.
Sorry to be blunt but he might now just fancy someone else..
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May be he doesn't like aims/goals that are easily trapped, sorry achieved. He might be looking for some challenge in life, just like some people do at work. Next time become a challenge for people. Don't let them easily 'use' you, show interest only when the intent of 'marriage' is clear. Your emotions, time, attention and feelings are not that cheap and low valued that anyone might easily get a share of it without any seriousness for a long term relationship. Better to get parents/siblings involved next time when you consider anyone for marriage. You are lucky that he left you at a very early stage and hence didn't give you as much pain as he could easily have (compared to the present situation).
Re: First he flirts and now all of a sudden ignores me.
May be he doesn't like aims/goals that are easily trapped, sorry achieved. He might be looking for some challenge in life, just like some people do at work. Next time become a challenge for people. Don't let them easily 'use' you, show interest only when the intent of 'marriage' is clear. Your emotions, time, attention and feelings are not that cheap and low valued that anyone might easily get a share of it without any seriousness for a long term relationship. Better to get parents/siblings involved next time when you consider anyone for marriage. You are lucky that he left you at a very early stage and hence didn't give you as much pain as he could easily have (compared to the present situation).
At the fear of being scandalous.. I had no intention of getting married to someone I barely know.. ..i.e him... The thought hadn't crossed my mind.. It's irritating me how desperately he wanted me to know his feelings, when I did he went AWOL. Y can't he just b a grownup accept it was a bit of fun n not let it affect work (my project) .
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Ummm what did u think was going to happen if u started flirting with a boss? coworker is one thing, but boss is a disaster waiting to happen.
Re: First he flirts and now all of a sudden ignores me.
so what is the actual problem? flirt kerna or flirt na kerna?
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My advice is to carry on normally. Pretend as if nothing happened and be very casual about it.
He is your boss...not someone you can easily ignore.
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Oh you girls.
So easily played, abused and used by a guy. In high school and college I learned that a lot of girls have really low self esteem, it's actually quite shocking. Even the very pretty ones think their so ugly/fat/ no one wants them/something is wrong with their appearance, and will easily give it up, just easily played
In fact there seems to be an inverse relationship in terms of how pretty they are and their self esteem, ie self esteem = 1/Hotness
Played and thrown away like a piece of trash. It's bad enough seeing it, but when I see it among our Muslim girls it's just plain depressing.
Guys get of on you chasing them, on making you desperate, it's sort of a game for them that boosts their egos.
Guys then sit around laughing their asses of about you, showing each other the desperate texts and voice mails you have left.,
Get some dignity and get some respect, any guy who wants to flirt with you like that , DOES NOT RESPECT YOU ONE BIT!!! I bet you anything he's doing that with 10 other girls.
Re: First he flirts and now all of a sudden ignores me.
No. Just flirting. He wanted me to know he liked me.. And as soon as I realised he did.. He is AWOL.
OK. How would you say he was flirting? I know how men flirt but want to clarify what HE has been doing or saying?
There is a difference in admiring few things about you or your work and being blunt and direct and saying "You look hot/sexy today" Or inviting or suggesting you to go out one dinner with him etc.
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always keep it professional in a professional setting. no matter your feelings, remember, you'll hate yourself for it later. best way to avoid making things awkward.
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Don't ya love how much respect womenkind get?
It's ok. All these sob's are gonna have daughters, and then when they see their daughters getting played, they can go and suffer a coronary attack. :)
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I don't understand y flirt with me if u don't like me? And there r only few women in our company.. I haven't seen him behave tht way with any of them.
Maybe he was interested before but now he's lost interest. Move on. Over-thinking about this will only make you feel worse.
Sounds like a jerk anyway. Not worth it.
Re: First he flirts and now all of a sudden ignores me.
Oh you girls.
So easily played, abused and used by a guy. In high school and college I learned that a lot of girls have really low self esteem, it's actually quite shocking. Even the very pretty ones think their so ugly/fat/ no one wants them/something is wrong with their appearance, and will easily give it up, just easily played
In fact there seems to be an inverse relationship in terms of how pretty they are and their self esteem, ie self esteem = 1/Hotness
Played and thrown away like a piece of trash. It's bad enough seeing it, but when I see it among our Muslim girls it's just plain depressing.
Guys get of on you chasing them, on making you desperate, it's sort of a game for them that boosts their egos.
**Guys then sit around laughing their asses of about you, showing each other the desperate texts and voice mails you have left.,
Get some dignity and get some respect, any guy who wants to flirt with you like that , DOES NOT RESPECT YOU ONE BIT!!! I bet you anything he's doing that with 10 other girls**.
This.
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"Oh he stopped flirting me, jerk"
(Not directed to OP)
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This.
yes. but if any guys doing this after HS and maybe some college, he really needs to get a life.
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Usually in such time pass (for fun's sake) relationships, sincerity & committment is least expected from both sides, unless one is too innocent to know what flirting actually means. As such affairs (games) are just for the purpose of fun, both men and women try to utilize their own strengths and not let their weaknesses be exploited by the other person. Usually, the more experienced one wins. A woman's strength is that she is not as desperate (as a man is) in getting invoved into a relationship by merely getting influenced by looks, without having enough information about the other person. But once she gets involved, her weakness starts, i.e. she can't easily come out of it. Here the strength of men starts, the sick men then play with her emotions in order to see how desperate she has become without his attention, while she is already trapped.
Additionally, he is very senior (powerful) in the company that you work, so he has also utilized this strength of his, against which you can't do anything. Now that he has already exploited your weaknesses, better not to give him attention at all, if you want to punish him and move on with life. Just consider it as a learning experience that should motivate you to concentrate more and work harder. Prove your worth through your efforts (only that should do the talking in your office). Difficult, but you have to understand that such a low person isn't worth of your attention and time, but your work is.
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maybe he got lasik done.