Re: first date...
I didn't read all the replies, i lost track of the topic somewhere on the second page i think. But here's wot i think about the original topic...usually it's guys who ask the girls out on the first date...so, the guy shud pay...but if a girl asks the guy out then she shud pay, or at least offer.
On our first date, my fiance paid...he asked me out, it was valentine's...wotever...after that, whenever we went out it was mostly him who paid...i offered all the time, but he wudn't let me pay...eventually, as months went by we both wud pay...money is something, thank God we never fight about...who has it, uses it...we have always, considered both of our incomes as "ours" therefore it doesn't even matter who pays...and i mean this started very early on, like after a month since that first date...so i think it depends on the couple, and how they see each other responsible financially.
As far as other courtesies go...i'm not a mushy type of person, and he picked up on that early. He is the romantic one...so i have never liked it when a guy opened my car door for me...that doesn't make me a feminist, i just don't like to be babied i guess...holding doors open whilst walkin in/out of buildings is different...we all do that for everyone (hopefully)...but the car thing seems idiotic to me, cos i am quite capable of opening it myself, plus it just wastes time :p