Re: first date…
It doesn’t surprise me at all that the voices of reason sound like nothing but screeches and appear to be accompanied by frothings to your good self. Rest assured however that I am not going to stoop to name-calling. I think this kind of discourse re: in a civilised - polite manner is what “Adults” are infamous for. I was polite when referring to you, why then did you not reciprocate?
There is confusion it seems as to the difference between feminist and feminazi and the good 'ol “traditional woman”.
Feminism is not a swear word, its not something wrong and disgusting, it is a very proper struggle for “equality” that females have had to go through (and indeed still continue to go through) in order to upturn the conventions that good old tradition imposed. The term equality here is perhaps the crux of the matter. By equality a feminist is not as stupid or as presumptuous as to claim no “inherent” differences between man and women - indeed every time she looks at herself she is reminded of that, rather wondrous, fact.. but rather she demands an equality in worth:
dictionary.com noun b) likeness or sameness in quality, power, status, or degree.
I cannot see how, based on this there is no room for chivalry - unless of course the chivalry brings along a superior attitude based on nothing but an accident of birth. To me chivalry is an extension of common decency and right and proper conduct - something that is distinctly lacking in todays society. Chivalry, may I remind you was a code of conduct for a gentleman valid for things beyond the discourse of the two sexes. It was equally relevant between two men - even at point of war.
Why does a Feminists demand for equality in worth then exclude her from such treatment?
A Feminazi however is a creature in its own right. In this case the male of the species is vilified and degraded at every opportunity, a woman is seen as “better” (again by accident of birth) and there is a marked bitterness and viciousness about her persona that can only be explained by either a) psychosis b) a bad experience.
I agree that in this instance to extend a hand would be beyond most people. I do however believe that this is not the case with people who’s moral standing and mannerisms transcend reciprocation.
As a feminist - a person who believes in equality in worth, not equality in physicality (this is a stupid impossibility) and so such - a traditionalist is equally as vile. The traditional woman thought of herself as lesser than the man in Worth - she agreed that her place was in the house only and that in no fashion could she be the mans equal, including intellectually. Although this may be more suited to a mans ego - a real man in my opinion would soon become fed up of such fawning and such a low self opinion. Although I see the logic in being overtly polite only to a person who sees you as a superior and treats you a god - I disagree that these are the only people to wards whom a chivalrous attitude should be adopted.
It has also been noted that traditional women sneer upon women who want to be equal in worth - they even actively put such ladies down- it is for this reason that they are not so well liked by the general female populace - who at this point of history - largely (in the west) come under the banner of feminist.
I hope that has cleared things up.
By the by:The label that is so quaintly named “reminder” is so obviously a disclaimer. That, as you well know makes all the difference.