Finding 'The One'

Lifestyle Relationships
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^ nothing wrong with making sure if she likes you.

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I am very happy to find THE one I can annoy for the rest of her or my life :)

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there's no such thing as "the one" or a soulmate. thoughts like that make a person think they really don't have to put any effort into the whole process.

go to a lot of social funcitons, eid get togethers, family gatherings, you'll meet somebody that matches those important traits you give importance to

Nomi bhaisaab, what do you value in life?

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I hate doing all that. I guess I'm screwed lol.

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u r not the only one who hates em and will be screwed .. :(

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i am not into matchmaking and it’s a dangerous profession :snooty: but janab there is nobody that ammi likes a lot? not saying that the one she chooses is right for you but be open to anything and everything within limits. don’t rush into anything without thinking it through very carefully. ultimately the one that is chosen has to be able to have the ability to get along with everybody and both of you make the effort to want to make it work.

always had an issue with dating b/c sometimes one person might fall in love and the other might not be interested at all. there’s always that risk of somebody getting hurt that’s why i don’t have a problem with arranged marriage b/c it focuses on all the other important stuff(somebody you will care about and respect are physically attracted to, all the other things you value) other than
“looooove” <----whatever that is, i have no clue.

and pray very very hard, good luck :k:

:eek: i can’t believe you read all that

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One more here my Brothas! …hahhaha… :lifey:

Thats just a very vague question…:konfused:

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Ammi is always liking someone and hinting, the only problem is that someone keeps changing lol. She isn’t actually looking but if she sees a potential match the hinting starts. But I do agree with you that arranged marriages have their virtues. I’m just stuck in the middle, I don’t like all the hassle associated with dating/courting and I’m scared of arranged marriages. I’m just going to wait for destiny to play it out. and I did read all that :eek:

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Right..... and whatever you get.....through arrange marriage or courting/dating.....after some time it will be same.....so why bother :D

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I don't believe in the concept of 'the one', I think there are a few people in the world you could live a happy life with, but I thinks the odds of coming accross all those people in your lifetime is slim. So if you think you have found 'the one' you should stick with them as you may never get to meet the other 'the ones'.

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what are the key points you value in a person, they should be this…or that

being soft spoken, a muslimah, homely, a punjabi, traditional rather than modern, your ammi should love her, stuff like that

yes we shouldn’t have any expectations from our spouses but these things are things you value in a person see?

and lastly, rizla86 and nomi, this rishta process is much easier for a guy(most of the time)

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If you’re afraid of embarrassment resulting from sending a proposal, there are ways. You don’t have to be stuck. You employ a common friend/acquaintance to get her opinion of you. Once the ‘like’ status is close to confirmed, you proceed via the parents.

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Finding THE ONE was one long, excrutiating journey for me (and im not even exaggerating). So all i'll say is I met my share of frogs before prince charming finally came along =) He also came along when I had totally given up so I guess all I can say is expect the unexpected, don't wait for the one to find you. Get on with other things in your life and, one way or another, it'll happen.

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that cupid’s arrow came out of nowhere and struck me right into my heart.. :wub:

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I don't believe in 'The One'.

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so, whats ur ideal?

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^

I don't have an ideal.

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^ me neither - that actually makes things complicated since anyone can be the one. But then I also believe in destiny... :o and that everything happens for a reason and you meet everyone for a reason. :)

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Not much detail....but would you like to share what constituted your 'excrutiating journey'??? How did you go about meeting the frogs etc??

you said value in life....now you are saying what do i value in prospective wife.....yes....i think things you mentioned do matter.....but they are just like general attributes....none of these things indicates mental compatibility or stuff like that....

and rishta process being easy diffcult depends on how you perceive it......Since each and everything is difficult for girls compared to guys......so i wouldn't comment on that :D

P.S..... I also think that the chances of finding 'the one' are very rare statistically....and whatever you get its your destiny.....many of those who found their 'one' end up living miserable lives later on

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Yeah I kind of agree with everyone here that 'the one' doesn't exist. And true love doesn't exist either. There might be many people out there you could live a happy life with while whoever you think is 'the one' might even turn out to be the worst person to be with. Its all about destiny, a friend of mine married his high school sweetheart, true love and everything, one year later they were divorced. Another friend of mine was with this girl for 6 years, before he got dumped and ended up with his cousin, lol.