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There is no answer to that :/ I just hope I don't have to go through the arranged marriage. Damn that must be awkward.
Yah but still be glad that atleast you wouldnt have to parade (that too with a tray) infront of unknown people and respond to their glares with a smile. Hah.
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keep an open mind adn don't concentrate too much on details .. simple
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so far.....its two ways..
- arrange...which is basically not finding....
2.Dating and stuff......(as Rizla said)..
hmm......
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hey it works doesn’t it? 
LOL. I hope I don’t have to put anyone through that, but what about guys getting grilled about beta kya kartey ho tum? kitna kuma letay ho?
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2.Dating and stuff......(as Rizla said)..
hmm......
Like you were not familiar with this before :D Lols.
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that reminds me of a story in which a prof was trying to explain his student the different between a finding a girlfriend and a wife .. ..
he asked his student to go in the corn field and pick the "best" corn but through his selection, he was not allowed to come back .. .. the student went inside the field and keep looking. Whenever he finds some good corn, he looks at it for a while then think there might be some better one ahead .. .. it happens once, twice, thrice and by the end, he reached at the end of the field and there was no corn in his hands. the teacher called him ..
the teacher asked him to go again .. this time student had his past experience, so he threw the thinking "there could be some better one" from his mind and no sooner did he find a corn which was "good" he picked it up and came back.
The teacher then explained to him that the first time, it was like you are dating and keep searching for the "best one" but second time its marriage where you said yes to the one which you think is "GOOD". you din waste your time
P.S:
its an analogy .. .. I still favor dating anyway .. :p
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LOL. I hope I don't have to put anyone through that, but what about guys getting grilled about beta kya kartey ho tum? kitna kuma letay ho?
That should be a piece of cake compared to what the gals go thru :D. Or so i would suppose!
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no to dating - wrong wrong wrong
works only for temporary relationships not for marriage
In fact makes things worse - when your past relationships keep interfering in your (supposedly) happily married life.
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no to dating - wrong wrong wrong works only for temporary relationships not for marriage In fact makes things worse - when your past relationships keep interfering in your (supposedly) happily married life.
so then it means only waiting for your good luck in arrange marriage process.......are you saying that??
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did someone imply that dating means “serious” relationship .. 
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so then it means only waiting for your good luck in arrange marriage process.......are you saying that??
Yes. It doesn't have to be completely arranged though if you know what I mean. If you like someone - instead of hitting on her and asking her out why not just send a proposal...?
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Yes. It doesn't have to be completely arranged though if you know what I mean. If you like someone - instead of hitting on her and asking her out why not just send a proposal...?
I agree. Since "dating" commonly means test driving everything before marriage, i wouldnt def favour it :p
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everything before marriage
what if test drive just a little bit.....and not 'everything'??
If you like someone
so you saying like how? how she looks n carries herself? is that enough to 'like' someone for marriage...or consider as the one?
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Yes. It doesn't have to be completely arranged though if you know what I mean. If you like someone - instead of hitting on her and asking her out why not just send a proposal...?
Because whoever it is you like might think you're a weirdo? That instead of you courting her and telling her your feelings yourself, you're sending your parents?
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what if test drive just a little bit.....and not 'everything'??
Most of the time, it doesnt stop at a little bit :p Often the test drive is taken so far that the other customer has issues buying the car.
Rotflol. Ok i wl stop now.
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so you saying like how? how she looks n carries herself? is that enough to 'like' someone for marriage...or consider as the one?
That could on person to person. For some people that would be enough, for others family background and education would be more important. For example if you like a colleague of yours... (all the things you mentioned above), you could get to know her by becoming friends with her - that way you'll know her and decide for yourself before actually getting her involved and then realizing she's not the one for you and moving on to someone else.
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Because whoever it is you like might think you're a weirdo? That instead of you courting her and telling her your feelings yourself, you're sending your parents?
I wouldn't think of that person as a weirdo... it shows respect... and courting in our society would mean engagement or intention to marry someone - not test drive
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That could on person to person. For some people that would be enough, for others family background and education would be more important. For example if you like a colleague of yours... (all the things you mentioned above), you could get to know her by becoming friends with her - that way you'll know her and decide for yourself before actually getting her involved and then realizing she's not the one for you and moving on to someone else.
See that's what I mean. So you like this colleague of yours and then you're friends with her, you think she is the one and you just send her a proposal just like that? What if the girl never thought of you in that way? Wouldn't it be weird? Surely you have to find out if she feels the same way first (to save yourself and your family from the embarrassment).
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I wouldn't think of that person as a weirdo... it shows respect... and courting in our society would mean engagement or intention to marry someone - not test drive
Okay fair enough. I don't really know how girls think, but that's just what I thought. And yes by courting I do mean courting with a view to a serious relationship/marriage, I wasn't talking about flings.