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^ No indian movies please! 
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Maybe not love in the bolly sense but the other reasons for marrying are just disgusting. For instance marrying for money, that reeks of prostitution to me... marrying to get out of ur parents house, that's immature coz running away from a bad situation... marrying becoz it's ur "time" and everyone expects you to, that's insecure and shows a willingness to let some stupid communtiy decide every little thing that happens with you. Marrying for love, and to have a family are good reasons to me :)
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lolz its funny....if a woman marries for security and stability in a man...its considered normal...but men marrying for stability (green card?) are a no-no....
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Well because traditionally, men are supposed toprovide security and stability in a relationship.. she has the intent to be with him forever, to have a family wiht him etc (at least that's what i think goes along with securtiy and stability, right?!??). But a man marrying for a greencard, he's just using her.... the intent is there, that if he marries her he will gain a material thing, and that's wrong..whos to say he won't leave her the second he gets a card? and its the same for women who marry just for greencard, albeit its not as easy for them when the tables are turned in that scenario :)
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well isnt getting a greencard sort of an assurance for stability for a man? shouldnt society be ok with it then?
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ANyone who goes into marriages with the wrong motives , their marriage is bound to fail.. if a guy were to use a girl for a greencard, how can u be sure he’ll be stable, i.e., not fk around wiht other girls, treat her well, etc? I mean it’s not just one way.. im sure women who marry for security and stability (financial or emoitonal) will be doing their part as well.
Another thing, it may not always be financial security/stability they’re looking for either, a woman can be making her own money and support herslef fully fine, but just looking for that one guy.. 
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true....but i meant as in for pakis....stability is considered a valid motive for marriage no?
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Yes it is. But maybe i'm being really conservative here, but men shouldn't depend on women for financial security and that includes green card etc.
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i agree!! because when a woman get pregnant or is breastfeeding she needs the man financial support! so it is better to make sure before than the man can support the family otherwise, no need to marry:D
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Parris it’s also in the Quran I think, it is the mens’ responsibility to support her financially, even if she makes more than him, it’s his duty to pay for all teh household expenses. Her contributions are not necessarily about money but rather all the little things she does day to day, raising kids, taking care of hubby etc. Neither job (outside or inside home) is easy and both have their advantages and disadvantages 
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not now trend changes .....
U know if there are 5 members of family ...all r earning ...tht too...... its not much ....
Still u need more money ...to go with everyday life .....
Unless u r not from the business Community...........
Who know how double and triple their crores in stock market ..i mean just investment in industries ...
AS there r so much spending ....i was talking about jobs in particular......
u never have enogh ...thats all.
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I guess now a days evryone have soooo many demands…in some cases demands like patli ho, gori ho and in some cases bmw ho, bara ghar ho…yeh sub cheesay aani jani hai…I think so If u cant do anything leave this to Allah…and enjoy ur life…