Financially supporting family 'back home'

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Re: Financially supporting family ‘back home’

@Princess1983

My mum is a single parent too. BAGARAT (sorry can’t spell today) families would burden a single parent for money to marry off THEIR children. Apoligies for being harsh towards your family OP. But my mums brother is exactly the same-he expecte my mum to support him. What the…why should anyone else support you but yourself? Allah gives rizq, not your passport!!!

You hun are right, why have kids if you cannot afford them? Someone should tell your aunts to throw her daughters in a well of water and get it over and done with because once they are married the cycle of begging will continue. They will start calling for money too.

A son has duties towards his parents, and noone should ever stand in the way UNLESS it’s taking the biscuit e.g. parents want money to deck out their home in marble whilst their son is working 15 hours a day to pay his mortgage. Marble ain’t a requirement for living, however having a safe home, food and bills being paid is.

I may sound harsh, but it gets on my goddamn nerves when people back home feel it’s their God given right to be supported by those who have moved away to foreign climates.

My dada (grandad) moved to the UK in 1957-since his move he was been supporting his useless nasty brother in Pak. His useless brother spent his jawani driving a nice car, living it up and spending money sent by my foolish grandad. How did my grandad spend his youth? Working 6 days a week in a factory doing an average of 16-18 hours a day.

As for supporting those with a handicap or other medical issue. I’d send them zikat.

Maybe I’m being harsh if so I don’t care the fact is Allah gave us all hands and brains and we are all given opportunities. How we use them is up to us. If we are lazy enough to sit around and wait for handouts it’s time someone took that advantage off us.

awww.. yaa u r absolutely right.
You are not being harsh.. its the truth..
ppl back home think tht we just sit at home and get money for free.. they dont realize tht we work our a** off to earn that money!
My parents have been divorced for a long time, but my dad was recently going back to paki and he asked me and my little 13 year old brother to send him money… I was like what the,… he never supported us and expects us to send him money and especially my lil brother??? arghh
this whole sending money back home thing is annoying!!!
I tell my mom to not send money to her family but they use guilt trips on her and convince her. Then she comes and whines about it., I told her… If u will send the money then dont complain because it is ur own fault.. ur enabling them!