Re: Financial Roadblocks
handing the paycheck to mum is a bit much...i mean it's one thing to look after ur parents financially (will talk about that a bit later in this post), and it's another handing them full control of the finances...
I was asked by the girls parents how much I make...this was a few yrs back, for a potential rishta that didn't work out...
Once I had decided to settle down, when things were being discussed b/w the families, I wasn't asked how much I made etc by anyone - not her, not my in-laws...they just asked what I did, and what I planned to do in the future...
however, I did explicitly tell her myself that I have certain obligations towards my parents which she shouldn't expect me to just drop cuz we're married...I've seen that blow up before in another marriage (for someone close to me) where the son was expected to stop supporting his parents financially after marriage...and it wasn't the case where the guy was just doing stuff for the parents and not for his wife...he was taking good care of both their needs first, and then looking after the parents, with enough to spare for her to do whatever...but the girl had problems with that for some reason...so yea, that's the only thing i clarified with my wife prior to marriage...she was fine with that...
other than that, I never asked her how much she makes...i don't expect her to work (eventhough she is)...she can if she wants (and she will most likely continue to work)...the money she makes is hers and hers alone, I don't even know which bank she has an account with for that...we do have a joint bank account where i deposit some $$ and she uses it for whatever she likes...no complaints so far...so Alhumdulillah, i am providing for all of her financial needs without any issues...and will continue doing so InshaAllah...