Re: Financial Roadblocks
True story. Chokra is here on GS
True story. Chokra is here on GS
Only you find these 'chokras', makes 1 wonder....hmmmm
When couple get married to each other dealing with finances is guy's responsiblity. Not woman. She can work if she wants to..but that money goes to her pocket..and the way i see it...guys have no right on his wife's money. Anyway, if the couple are going through tough financial hardship then..both of them can pitch in. You see, all the women out there...weight out guys in terms of finance and how much he makes..but you should look at his character and piousness first. Allah promises to provide rizq for everybody..some are happy and some not. You know what? suck it up because this world is temporary enjoyment..we are not here to live forever. I mean..i see so many people making plans for this and that...but no one knows how his or her life is going to be ended. Mash'allah i earn very good money and i am financially strong..and know that someday when i am mentally and emotionally prepared to get married, i perhaps will. Btw i will not choose a girl..based on her education or status or pretty she looks...i would look at her character and piousness.
Re: Financial Roadblocks
handing the paycheck to mum is a bit much...i mean it's one thing to look after ur parents financially (will talk about that a bit later in this post), and it's another handing them full control of the finances...
I was asked by the girls parents how much I make...this was a few yrs back, for a potential rishta that didn't work out...
Once I had decided to settle down, when things were being discussed b/w the families, I wasn't asked how much I made etc by anyone - not her, not my in-laws...they just asked what I did, and what I planned to do in the future...
however, I did explicitly tell her myself that I have certain obligations towards my parents which she shouldn't expect me to just drop cuz we're married...I've seen that blow up before in another marriage (for someone close to me) where the son was expected to stop supporting his parents financially after marriage...and it wasn't the case where the guy was just doing stuff for the parents and not for his wife...he was taking good care of both their needs first, and then looking after the parents, with enough to spare for her to do whatever...but the girl had problems with that for some reason...so yea, that's the only thing i clarified with my wife prior to marriage...she was fine with that...
other than that, I never asked her how much she makes...i don't expect her to work (eventhough she is)...she can if she wants (and she will most likely continue to work)...the money she makes is hers and hers alone, I don't even know which bank she has an account with for that...we do have a joint bank account where i deposit some $$ and she uses it for whatever she likes...no complaints so far...so Alhumdulillah, i am providing for all of her financial needs without any issues...and will continue doing so InshaAllah...
sigh.. i wish i could have discovered GS before i got married
sigh.. i wish i could have discovered GS before i got married
then you would have never marry :)
Re: Financial Roadblocks
Desimunday jaise larke kahan miltay hain?
Are u serious? 
Desimunday jaise larke kahan miltay hain?
mera husband hai aisa...lena hai?
Re: Financial Roadblocks
^ wouldnt u keep him tied to u forever in that case?
not for the money.. this is something i can earn too... but i HaVe to keep him for my boys...