Tell your family that you need time to heal and that they shouldn't rush into searching a rishta for you. Talk to them about this. Also, when you do meet someone during the rishta search that you like...take your time to get to know the guy and see if he's compatible. Whatever you do....don't go back to your abusive ex. You should be proud of yourself for dumping him. That required courage especially since you had been with him for such a long time. Anyone who doesn't respect you doesn't love you. Hang in there. Involve yourself in positive activities and with time...slowly but surely...the intensity of the hurt will decrease and you WILL move on. It may not see like it now..but trust me....it IS possible and you've already taken a step in the right direction. Best wishes.
why dig up an old thread that has had no action for a year and ask for it to be deleted, all you have done is bought it to everyones attention. What you should have done is copied the url, pm'ed a mod and asked for it to be deleted.
After reading the thread I am interested in an update though, have you got married yet?
Finally I am single again...I dun know if u ppl remember i shared my story with u all about my bf verbally abusing me and everytime he gets out of it by a single sorry....and every one of u replied to just leave him....which took me quiet a while to even realize that I should leave him...things went really dirty...he slapped me...and then there I was standing numb just thinking that there were many people in my lyf who warned me that this could happen as this is the step 2 after verbal abuse...but I was fighting to save our 6 year old relationship...all i got was this...I know I was wrong...anyway its too disturbing to even think about it....
Now the point is...that this phase of overcoming all this is hell lot of painful for me....for sure i dun feel lyk goin bak to sucha DOG...not even 0.5%( he is begging and crying but who cares!) still there are so many things worrying me...like will I be able to live with some other man? its not even 15 days and my family is looking rishtas for me...some of my friends say you'll be able to forget him only when someone else enters ur lyf... I just dont get this...and I dont even know that the other man will keep me happy or not...I know I am getting too negative at the moment...I cannot even think of someone else right now...but is this true that we girls tend to forget our past if this happens...His addiction is haunting me...
May be i just wrote all this to bring it all out of my heart...
my honest suggestion to u is get married n everything will b fine ........ Inshallah
